Why You Should Strive for a Meaningful Life, Not a Happy One

There is only one inborn error and that is the notion that we exist in order to be happy so long as we persist in this inborn error and indeed even become confirmed in it through Optimistic dogmas, the world seems to us full of contradictions. The modern world is obsessed with the notion of happiness it is seen as both the measure and the goal of the good life and as Sigmund Freud noted, much of what we do is motivated by the all-consuming desire to be happy. “…What the behavior of men themselves reveals as the purpose and object of their lives, What they demand of life and wish to attain in it. The answer to this can hardly be in doubt: They seek happiness, they want to become happy and remain so.” But is this endless search for happiness really a healthy way to live? For if we are unhappy, which for most people is most of the time, we will probably wonder what is wrong with us. Are we not cut out for this world? are the chemicals in our brain in need of a pharmaceutical adjustment? or rather was Schopenhauer correct in suggesting that aiming at happiness is a futile endeavor? Might we account our lives more fulfilling if rather than striving for happiness We devoted our energies to cultivating a meaningful life? in this video we will explore these questions. happiness has not always been considered a target worth striving for. The root of the word ‘happiness’ in most indo-european languages is ‘luck’ or ‘fate’, Implying that happiness was originally viewed as something to be given and taken away by the gods or by chance. It was not thought to be attainable through human effort alone. In The West it was Socrates who popularized the idea that happiness is the greatest good and should therefore be the ultimate aim of life. “What being is there that does not desire happiness? Well then, since all of us desire happiness, how can we be happy? That is the next question. Socrates’ assumption that we should aim for happiness was widely accepted by the ancient Greek philosophers who came after him. The enlightenment philosophers of the 17th and 18th centuries, whose ideas laid the foundation for modern civilization, also adopted Socrates’ view of happiness as the ultimate end. But while the ancient Greeks tended to ground happiness in the cultivation of virtue and personal excellence, Some of the most prominent thinkers of the Enlightenment tied the pursuit of happiness to the pursuit of pleasure. “Happiness, then” wrote John Locke, “is in its full extent the utmost pleasure We are capable of, and misery the utmost pain.” The maximization of pleasure and the minimization of pain is the recipe that many in our day use in the attempt to attain happiness. But structuring our life in this manner places us on a hedonic treadmill. We spend our lives Frantically running towards the goods, goals, events and people whom we hope will imbue our life with the pleasure needed for a happy existence. Yet upon attaining the objects of our desire. We quickly acclimate to our new conditions and return to our default state of being. whereas the philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer observed: “Striving for happiness is like an unquenchable thirst: We may attain some brief satisfactions, some momentary release, but in the nature of things these can never be more than temporary, and then we are on the rack once more. so unhappiness, or at least Dissatisfaction, is our normal state of affairs.” In our more introspective moments, many of us recognize the constant pursuit of happiness as a grasping for shadows. But what is the alternative? If we abandon the pursuit of happiness, what should take its place? In the remainder of this video, we will make the case that we should pursue a meaningful life, for as Carl Jung observed: “The lack of meaning in life is a soul sickness, whose full extent and import our age has not yet begun to comprehend.” One of the main reasons in favor of the cultivation of meaning as our primary aim, is due to the inevitability of suffering. while most of our suffering is minor and manageable, we tend to ignore the fact that we are forever at risk of descending into periods of great adversity. Times in which we are forced to contend with what Shakespeare called: “The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune”. In these moments of crisis, It is meaning alone, not happiness, which can provide us with the resilience needed to endure. “He who has a ‘why’ can bear almost any ‘how'”, wrote Nietzsche. Or as Carl Jung put it: “Meaning makes a great many things in durable, perhaps everything”. meaning, in other words, is the raw material out of which we can build our inner Citadel, our psychological fortress from which we can navigate the chaotic occurrence of life. But how do we cultivate meaning in our life? While no guaranteed prescription exists, some approaches seem to be far more tenable than others. One approach that does not fall into the category of tenability Is the attempt to find meaning through the attainment of external goods, such as money, fame, status, or relationships. These goods can augment the quality of our life, but it is unlikely They will imbue it with meaning. many people develop a successful career, raise a family, amass wealth and social status, only to discover, often around midlife, that despite their outward success their inward existence remains desolate and devoid of meaning. Or as Jung wrote: “A career, producing of children, are all maya [illusion] compared to that one thing, that your life is meaningful”. A far more practical approach to the pursuit of meaning, is to focus on the cultivation of our character. “What does your conscience say?” wrote Nietzsche. “You shall become the person you are”. Or as the pre-socratic Heraclitus put it: “Character is fate” If we focus on becoming a more complete and integrated individual, we greatly increase our chance of finding meaning for two main reasons. firstly, this approach is an antidote to the stagnation and passivity which guarantees a meaningless existence. And Secondly, by striving to cultivate our strengths, we will likely discover the ‘why’ or purpose to our existence, which is key to a subjectively meaningful life. To assist us on this path, we need to discuss the role that goals play in this process. The importance of setting goals for the sake of personal development is well known. For just as the stone can be shaped into a sculpture only through the force of a hammer and chisel, so to our potential, or the development of our character, can only be actualized through disciplined struggle and exertion. To merely float with the tide of life promotes a weak body and a soft mind. Hence, we need to learn to swim with the stream of life, and strive and fight for worthy goals. “Foolish are those”, wrote Marcus Aurelius, “who have no aim to which they can direct every impulse and, indeed ,every thought”. While most are aware of the importance of goal-setting, many make the mistake of sacrificing themselves for their goals. They believe it is the attainment of goals Which builds character and cultivates meaning, when in fact it is the continual struggle towards them which matters most. This theme of the importance of incessant striving is foundational in Goethe’s classic tale of Faust. For Goethe has Faust achieve Self-realization only through his commitment to perpetual struggle and strife: “Whoever exerts himself in constant striving, him We can redeem”. In continuously striving for goals, It is crucial to keep in mind that our goals are only of value if they contribute to the growth of our character. Sometimes our goals no longer move us forward, as they may have only been appropriate for a stage of our development we have outgrown. At the age of twenty, the writer Hunter Thompson elaborated this advice in a letter to a friend: “When you were young, let us say that you wanted to be a fireman. I feel reasonably safe in saying that you no longer want to be a fireman. Why? Because your perspective has changed. It’s not the fireman who has changed, but you. Every man is the sum total of his reactions to experience. As your experiences differ and multiply, you become a different man, and hence your perspective changes… So we do not strive to be firemen. We do not strive to be bankers, nor policemen nor doctors. We strive to be ourselves. The goal is absolutely secondary. It is the functioning toward the goal, which is important. In following this advice, in relentlessly striving towards goals while continually modifying them to facilitate the continued development of our character, we will place ourselves on a potentially meaningful life path. Choosing this path requires that we abandon our obsession with happiness and pleasure. But ironically, in stepping off the hedonic treadmill and exposing ourselves to the struggles and strife required to cultivate character, We will likely attain the transient state of happiness far more frequently than those who aim squarely for it. For as Hunter Thompson wrote: “Who is the happier man, He who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on the shore and merely existed?”

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