Tall Poppy Syndrome: Why Australians Fear Success | Episode 21 | Infinity Effect

Tall Poppy Syndrome: Why Australians Fear Success | Episode 21 | Infinity Effect


– In the thinking of
the Australian populace, there is this notion of
the tall poppy syndrome. It seems to pop up all the time. I said popped. (group laughs) I’m like wait… I could’ve used a different term there. Anyway, so moving on… (relaxing music) The curious thing, right, here in Australia in particular, we are so geared towards
supporting the underdog, the little Aussie battler. But then again, when they
accomplish the success, like, yes, we celebrate it, but then if it’s continued success,
or consistent success then all of a sudden, it’s like a switch. – Yeah, totally. – When we support Australia,
we support a sporting team. We get behind the team. And it’s funny when you
actually take it back, outside of the sporting
arena, it doesn’t exist. – Doesn’t translate across
multiple other areas of life. – The Australian football players, if they were seen driving
a Lamborghini to training, we’d all be like, “ah,
who the he think he is, “driving a Lamborghini to training?” whereas the NFL players
or the soccer players get to pull up in three
Ferrari’s and everyone’s like, “ah, what a legend, what a guy,
this is awesome, the best.” But in Australia, if a
footy player did that, they’d be like, “who the hell is he?”, or they wont get a game. – Yeah, it’s so true. – This whole notion around
how people who have money or earn money, it’s either
fallen into their lap or it comes very easily. – Everyone has to be status quo, everyone has to be the same. You can’t be succeeding, you
can’t have good things in life, you can’t be traveling,
you can’t have a successful business, et cetera et cetera. – Tall Poppy’s not necessarily
about wealth or money, it can be about status, it can
be about what you’ve achieved in society, in the community. In particular the business world. – I actually had a conversation
on a train with a guy from American who’s come over
to Australia to do business and when he was just
talking about how everyone kinda negged him a bit when he came over, and he was talking about who he’d want. And he’d never had that
before, and I’m like, mate, it’s Australia, they’ve got tall poppy. – Whenever we see people that
are accomplishing things, it’s almost seems as though
there’s always gonna be some sort of detraction from that. There are people that want to
diminish the accomplishment, right, want to talk down to the person. Why do we do that? Why do we steal one another’s joy? – It’s almost as though the
group-think, the mentality of the Australian populous
is that if somebody’s talking about their success,
they must be arrogant. This plays out so much in life and people keep themselves and restrain
themselves from accomplishing what they could accomplish
because they’re afraid of what others are going to say of them. – Tall poppy syndrome, it affects people when they’re not comfortable
within themselves, when they are vulnerable. It’s okay, I mean, it happens. You’re not going to be
perfect, you’re gonna get things wrong, not
everyone’s gonna love you. That’s okay, you know,
you’ve gotta deal with that. – There is very much that
universal equilibrium, that balance. There’s not such thing
as everybody loves you, or everybody hates you,
everybody likes you, everybody dislikes you. By default when you grow and
evolve and move to higher levels, and that’s
individuals, our business, or any business that you’re involved in, your family life, you
know, whatever it is. There will be by default a
residual effect of people being left behind. – As I’ve progressed within
my own personal journey, what I’ve noticed is that
in the initial phases of establishing myself and
changing the trajectory of my path, a lot of the
people that I’ve had around me, in and around me at
the time, a lot of them didn’t understand what
it was that I was doing, and so they would pass criticism and comments that were
diminishing in nature. “Why are you doing that?” “Like, what’s the purpose in that, mate?” “Like, who do you think you are?” “Dude, you’re a nobody,
why would anyone want to “take up your consulting.” “Why would anyone want
to hire you as a coach?” At the time that was really hard to hear. And some of those people were
people who were closest to me. – At least for me, the
concept in and around that tall poppy syndrome is,
you’ll get to a certain point where you outgrow someone else. That’s that trigger point,
where someone sort of says, “Ah, you think you’re
better than me, you think “you’ve achieved more than me.” It can really affect the
individual to stop them in their tracks, dead. And I’ve experienced it from both ends, and I’ll put my hand up, you know. Experiencing it from both
sides, you can actually, really put into context,
it’s not really about me, it’s the person who’s projecting
their values on to me, calling me a tall poppy,
which is the challenge. – But you get tested all the
time, guys, all the time. All of the challenge and
all this tall poppy syndrome and all of that that
we’ve been discussing, to me it tells me one thing. It tests your purpose in life. How genuinely do you want to achieve what you want to achieve? – Yeah, how bad do you want it? – Literally, how bad do you want it. (soft music)

7 thoughts on “Tall Poppy Syndrome: Why Australians Fear Success | Episode 21 | Infinity Effect

  1. I'm in this position I come from a harsh background I've recently been offered some success in China Chinese are much better about success because the have a culture of success we have a convict warden relationship we have bad culture in Aus also there is corruption everywhere we find our tribe and be loyal trustworthy ourselves and spread love

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