MyHallam Podcast episode 3- Mindfulness & Wellbeing

MyHallam Podcast episode 3- Mindfulness & Wellbeing


The MyHallam podcast is ran by
students, for students as a place to discuss the student experience and we
will also give insight to the various events happening within Sheffield Hallam
University and across the city. Hello and welcome to the my Hallam podcast I’m
Roagan hall I’m joined here with Joe Hannigan. Hello.
and Connor Christian. Hi you alright? Today we’re going to be talking about wellbeing and
mindfulness and the the things that we’ve used through studying and how
we’ve dealt with stress and we’re also going to talk to Connor a bit
about some of the groups that he’s a part of, firstly so Jo you know studying
at university can be very very stressful, it can be very overwhelming particularly
when it comes to deadlines, do you employ any tactics during those
times to make the the stress more manageable? Yeah, I mean it’s like sort of
fate that pretty much every student will leave things to the last minute, you are
99% chance you’re probably going to do that for if not all your modules a few
modules and but obviously do try and get a head start you know try not to lose
things till last minute because when you do get something completed early that
means you can go out and enjoy your time as a student a little bit more and you’ve not
constantly got this cloud over you but if you are feeling stressed and you know
you getting a bit bogged down then one you know don’t be afraid to like talk to
someone about it like even if it’s just a minor stress you know you don’t have
to make a big deal about it but you know if you’re struggling talk to your tutors, talk to academic adviser which we’ve always already spoke about in a
previous episode, you know just make even if it’s the tutor that’s gonna be grading
this just make them aware that you are struggling, because before Christmas
I had a module to create a sound piece and my hard drive failed and I lost
everything completely start again from scratch situation. I went straight to my
tutor and spoke to them about you know he was very supportive he like suggested things to me that I didn’t even like to think of to sort of
like deal with the issues that I were having. So, yeah get some outside
perspective, talk to your friends, talk to your family, you know that’s always best
thing to do. If you’re just like leaving stuff the last minute then you know it’s
probably gonna be an all-nighter situation so try and like get things
done sooner rather than later. Yeah and so Connor, let’s talk
about men up north for a second. So, what are, who, who are men up
north? Um, so men up north is a a program set up for men not just in
Sheffield, but all over the region. I don’t think it’s spread to London yet
but it’s definitely getting further and further south it’s an initiative created
by a guy called Anger Cara and he’s from Sheffield is from where I were from, Pitsmore, when I were younger and we didn’t even know each other back then but our paths
have crossed and he runs this initiative to help (I don’t know how to explain it) it’s pretty much to help men with their mental health just by talking and learning different techniques. I had
to deal with stuff like anger, depression, anxiety, mental health, well-being just
any issues that you have you can come along to these groups you can be as
vocal or as silent as you want it’s not a it’s not like an Alcoholics Anonymous
sort of situation it’s it’s more of a just men coming together and having open and honest conversations with each other and no one’s judging anyone
so we leave you know we leave all our egos at the door. No one’s better than
anyone else and you know we can sit there and have conversations about how
we’re feeling. So in that sense it’s like a workshop. Yeah it’s it’s massive its it’s more of a, how do i explain it, it’s
more of a. Like a gathering. Yes its more of like a gathering, it like friends
getting together but you don’t know anyone you know I mean and it’s like you
know that you’re never, you don’t think you’re gonna see these people
again or you probably wont you maybe see them in the street but then
when you do see them you know each other you know I each other feelings so you’re
not embarrassed or shy because everyone feels the same. Yeah. Yeah so from what
you’re saying I’m gathering that like it sort of takes off that pressure of like
oh this is an appointment like this is therapy, like it’s not anything like that
it’s just like literally a place to facilitate a conversation between people. Yeah exactly, because that’s what I struggle with. I can admit now, I couldn’t before but I can admit now that I had an ego about
stuff like this like I couldn’t, I wanted to be a strong guy, I wanted to, I
didn’t want to be emotional I don’t want to talk about my feelings because that’s
not what you’re supposed to do and that’s what society tells you not to do
I was always told, especially growing up as a kid to you know man
help get on with it you know. Yeah. And it was one of those things that, and I feel a lot of people have grown up like that. That’s where the name comes from
isn’t it, a play on man up. Yeah, yeah ‘man up’… ‘men up north’ yeah but
yeah you’ve got people from all walks of life, you know you got executives in
business suits sitting next to homeless men, you know and they’re having an open
and honest conversation with each other and it’s it’s so nice to be able to sit
in a room where no one’s judging each other no one’s, no one’s got an agenda
everyone’s just there to help themselves and help other people as well and it
makes you feel better because you know you sit there and you think you know
some of these guys have had 10 times worse experience than I have and I know
it’s not about who’s that the worst experience but that for me it’s more of
like I can see people that have lost everything in their lives and they’re still
here. Yeah. And that spurs me on to to be alright and accepting in what’s
happened in my life. Yeah. Especially when I were at
university coming to my end of my second start my third year I was struggling
with my anxieties and you know I’ve grown up with that. Like my mom and dad
both suffer with depression and it’s always been a thing for me
I always understood it but I never thought it would happen to me, if you
understand, as I thought I understood it I thought I was smart enough to get past
that but it’s not about that but it’s more about being being aware of how you
feel and for a long time I wasn’t dealing with it and one of my
friends at work told me about this group and I just I went and I’ve not been
able to stop going since, yeah just it makes me feel better every day.
It’s kind of cliche to say, you know if you feeling bad talk about it but
talking about it is the way you relieve that kind of that stress,
you have to let it out and finding these you know groups, whether it’s a group of
friends or it’s an arranged group like men up north, you know or its just an
academic advisor as we spoke to Sam in the first episode, it’s just really
important to express feelings locking feelings aways is probably the worst
thing you can do and as we were talking before in like, in this
society and and at the age where you’re studying and things it’s very easy to get
locked into a negative mindset. completely. Especially when you’ve got
deadlines coming up. What, do we have any sort of tips for people when it
does come to them deadline days on how to just relieve the stress slightly so
for example for me when studying I listen to music but not music like with lyrics, because, when there’s so much going on I find that a bit overwhelming. It’s
like, I listen to film scores you know film scores is a big one for me or
binary kind of music. I’m exactly the same so where as its because I love music so much any song that I listen to I’ve got
to sing the lyrics in my head even if I don’t really know it you know I
mean and it’s far too distracting to listen to music with lyrics so I found
that it’s really weird one but I found that jazz music is so like. Okay. It’s so
like it’s just instrumental so like you can just listen to it and you know
you don’t ever know what’s coming next with jazz it can take a form of it so on
and it’s just you know I’ve found that having that in the
ground is amazing while you’re studying and also kind of like in that nineteen thirties
nineteen forties music you know from fallout. Yeah. Okay yeah. Fallout,
i would stick like a fallout playlist on. Almost like ballroom dancing type
music. Yeah. Yeah it’s weird but it works. Yeah, I’d probably second that
again I don’t really listen to a much music I’m studying, because even without
lyrics I find it distracting but if I am taking on a task where I can like manage
with some music it will like be I like some sort of like lo-fi hip-hop or
like smooth jazz as Connor said, because you know there’s not really a rhythm to
get distracted by or anything. Yeah. Yeah and just making sure I’m prepared
because sometimes if I just think oh yeah I’m gonna you know do some work now like without preparing then distractions just come so much easier because you’ve
not like allotted that time so make sure you’ve just put some time aside even put extra
time aside because you know gonna procrastinate as well because you might
whip out your phone or whatever, so account for like all sorts of situations
that you know you’re gonna keep putting it off, yeah and just like plan it, manage
it. If music helps put music on, you know do whatever you need to do just to you know
spend that little bit of time, yeah. As far as study tips go I mean what worked
for me was I would start my day really early so I come in at like 8 o’clock in
the morning but I’d be able to leave at 3 o’clock.
Yeah. That spurred me on to and no one is here at 8 o’clock the morning.
Mm-hmm. A lot of of students come in at 1 o’clock, 2 o’clock they’re just
going to sleep at that time I think. Yeah exactly. That’s what i’m saying and it’s like I had to push myself to do that because nothing else worked for me. Yeah good
point. I’ve made a point of getting up a bit earlier as well I mean that you know in first year your probably not gonna get up very early
you know, as you’re moving to like your second year and stuff, just having a few days where you like you really encourage yourself to try and get up like even
I were forcing myself up to get up at five which is pretty
early for me and then going out into City and is doing some photography while there were on one around. Yeah. stuff like that and that’s just kind of
like making sure you’re out doing stuff that you enjoy and enjoying
yourself and you know gets rid of all that it’s not like procrastination
energy. Yeah and it comes back to mindfulness and spending time with
yourself you know spending time on yourself it’s not like, a lot of the time
when you’re at university you want to spend time with everyone that you’ve met
and you want to get to know them and you know you want to go out all the time and
all this stuff you never really stop to ask yourself how you are you know
and it’s a bit like it’s hard to do that as well because no one else is doing that. So you know, everyone’s sort of in the same boat. yeah no one ever comes into
your room in first year and goes how you feeling. Yeah. No. You know. Unless
you’ve got that one friend. Exactly. I mean like but that’s another thing, if
you have you know if you’ve met some friends in halls or whatever, or on your course talk to them you know like you know study buddy sort of stuff. Yeah. That can
always be useful for a lot of people. Yeah a lot of the times like everybody
kind of goes for the same thing and we get worried so much that it’s only us
going through it and that would be a burden for other people and sometimes
you just have to take that leap and be the first one to talk to a friend about
something to find out that that’s exactly what they need to speak to you
about as well. I was fortunate enough to meet what i would consider my best friend in first year in halls and like it you know it took a bit of time but you know it eventually go to that point where you know you can talk on like us all my more emotional
personal level and you know when we talk about having conversations with people it’s
not just what that person says to you might give you another perspective on
your problems but when you talk sometimes you just unravel your own
problems just by. Getting it out. Talking. Yeah. It’s like that with
a lot of things, you’ve got to be honest with yourself, you can’t you
can’t bottle things away because that’s when you’ve got a real problem.When
you’ve already got the stress of deadlines like looming constantly like you’ve
always got a card over your head with deadlines, you know, regardless of
how are you doing. Don’t like add fuel to the fire. I think a lot of people when
they first come to university struggle a lot with loneliness and feeling like
they don’t fit in. Yeah. I implore everyone to seek out societies because
that is a major way that you can make friends because you are already
going into something that you already like it’s not like you’re going into
something random you know you can pick we’ve got thousands of societies there’s
knitting societies there’s you know. There’s Quidditch. Yeah there’s Quidditch,
there’s there’s gaming societies. It’s not just sport and you know if you
know you already like something you’ve already got come on ground with people
so if you and those people will accept you because you’ve got common ground
with them and there is no doubt that you could walk into a society and
there will a hundred percent someone will accept you in that group.Yeah. Great, so
lifestyle also plays a key part you know making sure that you’re eating
right in your exercising right you know and as a student it’s very easy to
cheap out on the food you know and you know survive off of noodle type meals.
Yeah. You know and not really get like the nutrition that you need but
like I do think that a lot of the time there’s a link, I can only
speak for myself but there’s a link of when I’m not eating well and when I’m
really mentally not feeling well. Yeah definitely. and it’s very easy to
overlook that but I do think it’s important sometimes to, it’s not
like cheeping out on food but just make, you know the canteen you could you could
buy a banana and an apples like 30p just something like that it’s a lot cheaper
than the muffin. It’s gonna make such a difference so
yeah. What kind of lifestyle tips, like do you guys tend to find like a
certain food will change your mood and things like that and if I have a full, for me if it’s a hearty meal of like a lot of veg and stuff like however, I
was feeling beforehand it after it’s different. Yeah. I can feel the difference I feel. I don’t know if it’s this is the same
with you or anyone else out there but when I have a a proper cooked meal it
reminds me of home it reminds me of my mom cooking for me in the kitchen you
know it always has been like that and sort of like the nostalgia just makes
me feel better yeah of having a cooked like a properly
cooked meal so you know maybe you don’t have to do it every you know it’s hard
being a student you know we all know money is scarce as you study and
it’s just always gonna be like that and a lot of people struggle but I think
maybe once or twice a week definitely you know take some time out with
yourself, like I said, cook yourself a meal and be proud of it you know. There’s loads of things that there’s a butcher’s just on Sharrow Vale
road Is it Rodney’s, Rodney’s butchers, right they
do the best meat and it’s cheap as well there’s a butchers on where is there, you
know, the Sainsbury’s just on Division street. On Moor? Oh, just off Division Street. You
know I mean just off Carver Street, sorry. There’s butchers there and they doe just do meat, they do fish they do like pies that you can just stick in the oven
and you know they’ll tell you what goes well with all the stuff
and it’s cheap there. Yeah. It’s cheap to buy meat and you can just freeze it. Yeah
well I mean cooking like dishes from scratch generally is gonna like save you
a bit of money it’s like obviously depending on you know what you going for, but yeah like I’ve always been interested in cooking since,
well quite young to be honest so like having, so coming to like live on myself
that’s like exciting in that sense I’d always be cooking for myself, but that
don’t mean you’ve got time to do it so it is difficult when you don’t got time
but like if you aren’t a particularly good cook or anything like find someone in
your accommodation that is because there probably will be someone who can cook.
Yeah and they will cook for you because you know people that like to cook, cook. yeah I cooked so many meals like with my friend and it’s just like more enjoyable to do that
way. Oh yeah. Obviously like we said when you cook you
feel better another thing is always like gyms there’s quite a few gems in Sheffield like if you can like get that into your budget which the prices aren’t
too bad you know for just two pure gyms and you can get that as cheap as £17 per month. The SHU gym at
collegiate. Yeah.There’s one here as well. Yeah you can you can pay for like
certain amount of time if you’re not into gym, thousands of
sports if you’re not into sports, go for a walk you know like we were saying on another
episode there’s parks there’s peak district, buy a cheap bike
second hand. There’s always bikes on Eccy road. Yeah.
Just outside the is it the shoe makers or is it the gunsmiths shop? I’m not sure.
There’s always bikes for like thirty quid. Yeah. Just outside and you can go
and buy one yeah literally just don’t get into like a routine of like cooking
cheap instant meals and sitting around it’s the easy way to like do it because
you know Uni takes a lot of effort but look after yourself you’ll be able to
manage that like effort a lot better but yeah eat well and move, just move around
like that even if it’s just walking you know just for 30 minutes a day yeah. It’s
not even like you have to eat well for every meal you know like you you can get
you you cheap filler meals with you your instant noodles just make sure you
at least have a wholesome meal a day yeah and that will will make such a
difference and you can’t even underestimate I mean we are what we
eat. Yeah definitely. There’s a famous saying
for a reason. Again there’s like as we were saying in a previous episode
as well, there’s like so many independent food places. All these places are like
made to order sort of things so you can go and get like if you won’t spend a bit
more like when you go for a meal or whateverever go somewhere like independent you know
you didn’t have to like go to like fast-food chains or you know big
restaurant chains where it’s all like packeted. The independent food shops as well I don’t even find them that expensive no you know if you just getting it for
yourself you know once a week it’s fine like and you get a proper cooked meal
from like ninety percent of the places that you visit yeah. Yeah great I
think we went into a bit detail on how we maintain, you know just try
to eat well, express your feelings, I mean you’ll be you’ll be
surrounded by people here in Sheffield and at times that can feel overwhelming
yeah, but it is important to believe that we we all do go through it
as well we can we can feel that we’re closed in a box
in a very noisy environment and that everybody you know, and
everybody’s okay but you and you know and that kind of thing and in reality
we’re more alike than we probably realized sometimes and I think it is
like when you first come to uni as well like it’s very overwhelming like you’ll want to go out all time you know you’re always gonna be doing stuff for
your friends and that’s fine to do you know definitely make most a time yeah
but if you ever feeling like you know just take that moment till I listen to
yourself and if you actually want to stay in or want to chill out a bit
then just do it like you’re not missing out on anything your not gonna miss like you know, it’s not wrong. Its misconceptions like you know you know if you stay and then people
calling you boring and all this stuff you know take that you know you take
time for yourself yeah just you know you don’t have to go out every single
night and the drink doesn’t help either because yeah we all go out and we
enjoy we enjoy a drink and we enjoy stuff that we do when we’re out and yeah
that’s alright but don’t be doing that every night and it’s also gonna
like adds affect you financially as well yeah yeah okay
thank you very much for listening to this podcast my name is Roagan, I’m Joe
and I’m Connor thank you very much. See you next time, bye.

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