I quit social media for 30 days

I quit social media for 30 days


American Millennials spend more than three and a half hours on their phone every day. A majority of that time is spent on social media. My question: what benefits could you receive from stepping away from social media? Would you be more productive? more focused? In what ways might your life change? And as someone who produces content and depends on an audience for a living, I wanted to know: do you need it to grow and support your business? So I quit social media for 30 days to find out. The first few days were the most challenging. I knew without taking extreme measures I would slip back into my old routines and check my phone frequently throughout the day. So I deleted all social media apps from my phone. I logged out of all accounts on my computer and cleared my history to build up some friction. (I was gonna do that anyway) But that wasn’t enough, like many people I had hardwired into my brain this compulsive checking. But it wasn’t the content that I was addicted to. It wasn’t the likes, comments and Direct Messages It was the anticipation of what could be. Maybe that potential client messaged you back. Maybe one of your posts went viral? Or maybe the rock tweeted at you? The rock, the rock tweeted at me! Okay, that one actually did happen, but it’s almost always nothing. So I knew I had to create some distance I committed to leaving my phone in the bedroom while I worked and when I could I kept it at home while I left the house. You know the classic triple pat? The moment right before you leave your house and you check your phone, wallet and keys. Phone, wallet, keys. I turned it into the double pad. Just my wallet and keys. After a week, I stopped flinching for my phone and it no longer felt weird to leave home without it. There are a number of reasons why you might want to quit social media. The side effects are a little bit different for each of us, but I’ve got three main points that I think many of us fall into: Some people find that apps like Instagram put them into a “comparison mode”. By constantly seeing what other people have, you instinctively want it as well. While others are addicted to the feedback and attention, one study showed that many people would prefer a mild electric shock, rather than sit alone in a room for 15 minutes. Your phone can make you feel connected, less alone and it preoccupies your racing mind And because of that, it’s a massive time killer that can distract you from your work and hinder productivity. So, when I started this 30-day social media detox, I actually never intended to stop posting. Originally, for me, the negative side effects seem to only be boiled down to comparing myself to others and Wasting time through distractions and browsing. And I wanted to see if I could get the benefits of using my platforms like Instagram to connect with my audience Without actually using them – so posting through a third-party app. But was that just me rationalizing my addiction? Did I actually think that by stepping completely away from social media my entire life would fall apart and people would stop watching my videos? Did I think that I had to keep up by posting every day or else Instagram would banish me to the land of bad algorithms? It was probably a mix of both but here’s what ended up happening. In the first two weeks I shared a few photos and tweets. But after I disrupted the feedback loop, I lost my drive to keep up and stopped sharing. I did continue to post videos to YouTube which I use as a platform, Similar to a blog. It doesn’t have the same addictive effect as social media for me – or does it? For the first week, I’d grabbed my phone without even thinking, unlock it and start to swipe through screens looking for something to preoccupy my wandering mind. Then I’d snap back to reality and realize I had deleted all my social apps. I started to spend much less time on my phone Averaging 23 minutes of screen time per day. Compare that to the previous month where I spent 98 minutes a day on my phone Have you ever given the excuse “I don’t have enough time to do ____”. I know that I’ve definitely done it in the past. Whether you want to start reading more, go to the gym or start a business, a lot of times We think we just simply don’t have enough time to do it when in fact, maybe it’s our priorities that aren’t really in check. Maybe we need to think about where we’re spending our time to begin with, like social media. Once you start to identify the things that you value in your life, the things you really want to bring into your life you have to get rid of those distractions. And for me, at least, it’s become social media. And as for my business, did things slow down? Halfway through my 30-day detox, I saw the largest spike in subscribers on YouTube that I’d ever seen like by far. I had never even come close to seeing this kind of response from my videos. If you were wondering, this is when I hit YouTube’s trending page as a creator on the rise. And this massive drop is when YouTube deleted a bunch of bot accounts. I gained over a 124,000 subscribers over the 30-day detox. the source of the traffic? A video on my youtube channel called “A Day in the Life of a Minimalist” that quickly climbed to 3 million views in 10 days. And as far as revenue goes, I got the biggest increase in patreon supporters since starting it in August. Now I know what you’re thinking, “Matt, could you give us some more info about this patreon account?… …like I’m dying to know what you provide the patreon supporters?” So I’ll do that in about 30 seconds or so: My Patreon account is one of the ways that I’m able to keep this YouTube channel 100% advertisement free and in exchange I create exclusive content that I don’t release anywhere else Covering lifestyle design how I make my videos and my personal vlog. In fact today, I released a video breaking down how I was able to grow my audience here on YouTube, as well as provide advice and tips for those creators who are looking to break through the noise You can get it all at patreon.com/MattD’Avella But of course if you don’t have the money to contribute right now do not feel pressured. The fact that you watch my videos is enough from me. So in the same month that I quit social media, I saw exponential growth in my subscribers. It’s most likely a coincidence as I would have released that video anyway, but it did make me think: Why was I spending so much time on social media when the heart of what I do is making films? Seth Godin wrote an article this month called “Social media is a symptom not a tactic”. In it he writes: “The Mona Lisa has a huge social media presence. The picture is everywhere, but she doesn’t tweet. She’s big on social media because she’s an icon, but she’s not an icon because she’s big on social media.” The narrative of social media grooming is a seductive one, But it’s as much of a dead end as spending an extra hour picking out which tie to wear before giving a speech. With the additional hour every day, I was able to be a little bit more productive, which meant that I could get ahead with my work and I could either spend that on creating more content, more videos, or I could just take some time off and spend it with my family. Which is what I did when I went back home to visit them for about a week. My nephew Oliver thought my drone was the greatest thing ever. The lesson? Productivity isn’t always about increased output. Another lesson, don’t give Oliver the drone. There’s a sense of clarity that you get when you take a step away from the compulsive checking. Tt’s really hard to explain, it’s really impossible to quantify, but I can tell you that I simply felt better by being away from it and It became much harder for me to see the benefits of social media to begin with. The urge to get back on Instagram and apps like it is mostly fuelled by the fear of missing out. For some reason we’ve convinced ourselves that it’s important, that it’s necessary, but once I got connected again, I realized one simple truth. I didn’t miss a thing. Now looking ahead to my next 30 days as a solo creator and someone with a finite number of hours of the day, I’m not so sure I want to spend them the way I used to. Sign up for Patreon for a dozen unlisted videos with new ones coming every month And of course subscribe to my channel for new videos every week. Thanks for watching!

100 thoughts on “I quit social media for 30 days

  1. I have quit social media for different periods of time for a while now but I recently started posting content on IG (Writing and stuff) so I can't just delete the app and never use it because that's what I do,, But I wanna delete it so bad what do I do

  2. In phillipines its easy when you are poor u dont have wifi at home when i was 10 i even touch my tablet cause its useless just a camera and ETC. Its like about 3 yrs but now we have wifi i cant stop watching youtube and playing online games

  3. i deleted my twitter about a year ago and my instagram a month and a half ago. i dont really use anything other than youtube anymore, n getting away from social media is honestly a form of therapy. if u are contemplating it: do it. you'll feel so much better. later on u might redownload the apps but u'll lose interest n wont be as addicted. im 15 but i got so bored of all social media. im sad i joined it so early, but ive learned a lot. social media isnt everything. 🙂

  4. Am i only one addicted to YOUTUBE than social media?If not, comment below what do u think about youtube?Is it also like social media addiction?

  5. I quit facebook for 7 months, deleted my twitter account but my instagram………………….and youtube…………..:)

  6. I could not quit YouTube or Facebook or twitter or Snapchat for a whole month
    I don’t care about Instagram

  7. I quit Facebook 4 years ago 🌻 and Instagram on May 2019 ❤️ I deleted the Snapchat app, I only keep it for the filters.. but it’s boring to me.. I only use YouTube! Glad I’m not the only one.

  8. its not about how you quit social media , its about how you manage yourself through it. the question is , can you make the aspects of yourself more manageable?

  9. You guys should actually try this. You will become an actual stoic person. If it's challenging, just limit your time. The people you follow or are subscribed to depend on how your mood will be impacted. If you follow social media flexers and big booty women, you will end up like everyone else with no uniqueness. Follow people who motivate you or share similar experience with you and watch on how your life will improve.

  10. I quit social media for about a year and a half due to depression which I didn’t realize till late and have been much happier. That includes video games, played less and less because I’m starting to outgrow them and been much happier. I’m 22.

  11. pfff i never use social media like facebook, instagram etc. Im just here to sperg out in youtube comments. Social media is stupid and people who use it are always narcisistic cunts anyway.

  12. It's been 2 months since I had quit social media. It's a great feeling. I feel free and in full control of myself.

  13. I deleted all my social media since I started senior year of college. Had it for curricular purposes. No regrets deleting my accounts. It has been exactly one year since I deleted them.

  14. I only use facebook/messenger to talk to my friends and play Criminal Case. Basically that's it, I don't even post anything there since years ago. And I use whatsapp to connect with my family (I have cousins who live in France and Colombia, I'm from Portugal).

    Instagram? I rarely, rarely use and stopped following people which did make me feel jealous or sad.

    I have to use facebook and whatsapp because I have people who are special to me and life far away, sadly. We sometimes do videochat too. I don't think this is ruining my life because I stopped following/being friends with people who were toxic to me, and nowadays, I feel a lot better 🙂

    About my social life – yes, I have a social life, surprise. I have a internship and school. Maybe I'm addicted to technology, but I can handle it better than years ago. It's possible to control it through time.

    (I don't even know why I'm sharing this… but oh well)

  15. Man i quit social media for 2 year or so and the only one thing i understand is "without social media people like me who are shy to speak with other girl/man depend if you are male or female can't reach the friendship with anyone without the social media" but of course you are 110% more productive than everyone because everyone or smoke or drink or everytime they are with the phone in the hand for chat or just for scrolling facebook or vocal whatsapp or instastories.Btw i feel good and they after day i try to speak with the other gender for try to be friends or something but they want you to go on facebook or your whatsapp.
    Im the only one in EU without the social media like eremit and for me your 30 days are only the start,you need to go for a 1 year for see the result and maybe your mind grow up because social media control your mind.
    Good night sir
    P.s I'm 26 so i start at 24,i'm not a bad guy,i understand only with social media everyone lose their mind just for a like or a kiss.

  16. Honestly I use YouTube a lot but give me a source of entertainment and I'm usually happy when there's nothing to do but why do you always need to check your phone when walking around although I think this millennial generation is the most creative but our social media addiction is terrible

  17. How can people be addicted to this junk? It's a big waste of time. Do you guys think celebrities "tweet" about their real lives? Don't you people understand that most of their tweets are explicitly for marketing and self promotion? Jeez, if you guys like toxic shit so much, why not just do heroin? At least you'll get a high out of it!!!

  18. In other words, it's not an "addiction". You became normal for once in your life. Not that normal being called the "norm", but you actually became AWARE. Unfortunately you went back without learning a damned thing. Though, you're still judging people on how they use their own shit, hypocrite much? Nothing learned… you are a TOOL. You're a MAJOR tool because you advertised your own shit, after stating that there were no actual ads on your video. IDIOT.

  19. Am not gonna quit social media because I don’t get eny of thos negatives I love myself a little to mutch and I kinda dislike people but if it is negatively affecting you stop it

  20. I don’t have social media it disappoints me . Wooosh. I am mostly the only person with no social media. 😁😐

  21. I play fortnite and today they released a dance (emote) called ‘Where is Matt’ so I was wondering if they’re referring to this Matt?

  22. Ok but for some reason every time I uninstall an app and come back i have notifications but whenever I keep it I get nothing.
    Also I’m pretty young and literally this is all my peers do .
    Maybe I’ll quit when school starts

  23. 98 minutes? That’s it? Bruh I wake up, phone I eat, phone I sleep, *phone*.
    Ha, I find happiness and power from having an unhealthier lifestyle than you.

  24. Lmao I dnt use social media only youthbe now. 2 years ago I didnt use any type of social media platform. Not even played video games

  25. I quit insta for about a year. And snapchat a little longer than two years. Had no people confronted me even notice i was gone. I wasnt this type a person to constantly like my pictures. Id just like how people lives are which is very interesting. I mostly watch youtube. But i got sad and lonely and no one uses text message or even look at someone to text . so i got on and i miss communicating slash i have no numbers with them. Idc about sociak media except for games i have included connecting or i lost everything ive earned or cannot play. So just control and don't listen to social media at time. I never do twitter. I need to focus on the news cause im misssing out whats going on.

  26. 2 years ago I deleted all of my social media and it gives me motivation to learn more things like:

    3 languages: Japanese, Sign language, Italian, improve my english (i'm french)

    More hobbies: drawing, basketball, "tahitian canoe", survival boot camp

    And instruments: guitar, ukulele, piano and "toere" (sort of batterie from tahiti)

  27. am i the only 23 year old who doesn't own a phone or use social media? (i do use forums, IRC, and discord though but I'm unsure if those count)

  28. I do I get a medal?

    Never used or even signed up to a social media. I guess you can count Youtube but it’s a very different type of social media.

    That is Oscar nomination material right there.

  29. Hi Matt. First i'm saying to Hats off to you. I quite to social media in 6 month. because one day i'm thinking about my future. Why i quite social media's for 30 days. next day i have uninstall my social media's expect you tube, after then i leave my families and friends…i have to go some other new place… i realize my life… see the world..peoples, what they do our life?.. why i also living that life…so i decided to do it something for a change…i have to go for new places new peoples…i realized how to tackle some problems… i could understood some peoples are same mentality ..they want only money otherwise they don't care about anything.. throughout in this 6 month in this minutes i'm not get back home…i don't know what needed in my life…but one thing i enjoyed this life .. next move i try to face some hard adventures.. i hope so i can do it.

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