How to know your life purpose in 5 minutes | Adam Leipzig | TEDxMalibu

How to know your life purpose in 5 minutes | Adam Leipzig | TEDxMalibu


Translator: Yulia Kallistratova
Reviewer: Denise RQ On the last evening
of my 25th college reunion, there was a party in a tent with dancing, and music, and noise. So much noise that a lot of us
started to drift out of the tent so we could hear each other talk
and catch up with classmates that we had not seen
in more than 2 decades. As I talked with my friends
I made an astounding discovery: 80% of them were unhappy with their lives. “I feel as though I’ve wasted my life,
and I’m half way through it,” they said. “I don’t know what my life is all about.” I was privileged to go to Yale, and we were standing on a summer evening
in the middle of Yale’s old campus, and the people that I was speaking with
were privileged, and highly educated, and financially well off,
and in positions of power. And they had the first house,
and the second house, and they had the first spouse,
and the second spouse. (Laughter) And 80% of them
were unhappy with their lives. Who was happy, the 20%? Well, we had studied literature
and Renaissance rhetoric, and we were the theater people,
and the history geeks. We had studied classes
for the joy of learning, not because we thought they were going
to put direct us to a specific job. We still got jobs, we were living our lives expansively, with life’s ups and downs, and we did not feel
that we had wasted a single minute. And as I spoke
with the 20%, the happier 20%, I discovered that each of them knew something about their life purpose because they knew five things: who they were, what they did, who they did it for, what those people wanted or needed, and what they got out of it,
how they changed as a result. Does that sound hard? It’s not, it’s actually really simple. In fact it’s so simple, that you can learn
your life purpose now. You’re going to know your life
purpose now, in the next five minutes. Would you like to know your life purpose
in the next five minutes? (Audience) Yes. Can you be a little bit louder? Because they are making
a lot of noise in the tent, and there is just a silly little microphone
next to my cheek to hear you. Would you like to know your life purpose
in the next five minutes? (Audience) Yes! Thank you. Actually, it’s not
even going to take five minutes. So, can I share something else with you? If you’re like a lot of us, you have wondered and worried
about your life purpose for a long time, and there are books, and magazines,
and workshops, and seminars about it. In fact, Amazon lists 151,928 books that refer to how you can learn
your life purpose. (Laughter) Well, I know some people
who have spent their entire lives trying to learn their life purpose. Look, we can all agree that
the unexamined life is not worth living, but if all you’re doing
is examining, you’re not living. (Laughter) So, let’s figure out
the life purpose right now together: who you are, what you do,
who you do it for, what those people want and need,
and how they change as a result. Shall we do it?
(Audience) Yes. All right. Everybody, on the count of five,
shout out your first name. One, two, three, four, five: (Audience shouts) Fabulous. That was the first one, only four to go. That’s who you are. (Laughter) Now, what do you do? What do you love to do? Do you love to write, cook, design, create iOS apps, write code,
crunch numbers, talk, teach? What do you love to do? And if there is a lot of things
that come up for you focus it down by asking
yourselves this one question: what is the one thing that right now you feel supremely qualified
to teach other people? Think about that in one word. Hold it. Don’t release it yet.
On the count of five. What do you do? One, two, three, four, five: (Audience shouts) Great. That’s what you do. Now, think about who you do it for,
picture them in your mind, be ready to say it on the count of five. Hold it, don’t release it yet. One, two, three, four, five: (Audience murmurs) OK, who do you do it for,
let’s see it one more time. A little bit louder, please,
over the people in the tent. Who do you do it for? Together: (Audience shouts) Thank you. That is the spirit
that we need. OK, now. What do all those people want or need? What do they want or need that you have, that they’ve come to you
so you can give them this thing. What do they want or need?
In just one or two words. Hold it, don’t release it yet. And on the count of five:
one, two, three, four, five… (Audience shouts) Fantastic. Now, this is the best one. How do they change? How do they change or transform
as a result of what you give them? On the count of five, how do they change or transform
as a result of what you give them? One, two, three, four, five: (Audience shouts) Terrific. Now we’re going to put this
all together kind of in a sentence, OK? Everyone together,
louder than the people in the tent: who are you? (Audience responds) What do you do? (Audience responds) Who do you do it for? (Audience responds) What do they want or need? (Audience responds) How do they change as a result? (Audience responds) Fantastic. You have all just done something that people who went to Yale
could not figure out for 25 years. Congratulations. Give yourselves
a hand. (Applause) Now, why is that formulation so powerful? Because of all of those five things
that you need to know to know what your life purpose is, only two are about yourself. The other three of them
are about other people: who they are, what they want or need, and how they change as a result. That formulation forces you
to be outward facing. And all the happier people
that I met outside the tent on that warm New Haven night they were outward facing,
they were not inward facing. They knew very clearly whom they served,
what those people needed, and how those people changed as a result. And you may have intuited this already that the most successful people
in any field always focus most on the people that they serve
than on how they are served themselves. Happier people make it a point
to make other people happy, and do things that make them
feel well taken care of and secure. If you make other people happy,
life teaches us, we will be taken care of, too. So since you all did so well, we have time
for just a little bit of extra credit. (Laughter) One of the most difficult things that happens when you meet
people for the first time is they ask you this question, “So, what do you do?” And, if you’re like some of us, that’s a really
challenging question sometimes. Particularly, if you’re in these moments
where you’re between things, or you’re feeling vulnerable,
or it isn’t defined. Or, what you seem to do
isn’t what you really do, or what you paid to do
isn’t how you define yourself. So, when people ask you
this question, “So, what do you do?” and also, you’ve got
this mental monologue going on, “Why is he asking me?
So, what do I do? Is it because…” It’s that transactional thing
where it’s like: “He wants to know if he should really
spend time talking to me?” (Laughter) Or, it’s that other thing,
so he can tell me what he does because he’s sure it’s, “Oh, really,
so much better than what I do?” (Laughter) Right? So, when somebody asks you
that question, here’s what you do: you just say the very last thing
you called out, how what you do changes
the people you do it for. So, for example, you might say,
“I give kids awesome dreams.” If your life purpose is:
“I write books for children, so they can fall asleep at night,
so they can have awesome dreams.” Or you might say: “I help people
look and feel their best,” if your life purpose is: “I design apparel for men and women
who need affordable choices, so they can look and feel their best.” Or you might say: “I help people
get great work into the world,” if your life purpose is: “I train entrepreneurs and creative people
to take decisive actions, so they can get
their greatest work into the world.” And then, that little snippet that you just said becomes your personal elevator pitch. And it will always start a conversation because the person
that you were just talking to has to ask you a question, “How do you give kids great dreams?” “How do you help people
look and feel their best?” “Can people really get
their greatest work into the world?” And then you get to tell them, and you get to share your life purpose. And you get to share
how they may come to learn theirs, too. (Applause)

100 thoughts on “How to know your life purpose in 5 minutes | Adam Leipzig | TEDxMalibu

  1. Nick Aoke. I teach people who want more from life how to transform themselves so they can achieve their dreams in life. I think I got this!

  2. Can he provide 3 examples of the 5 questions answered? Then you get a better idea of the effectiveness of 5 questions.
    Primary life purpose: love someone else. In work environment: serve you customers best.

  3. I feel my only purpose is to be s sucker and help ppl even when i am down to my last few bucks literally ..& I'm ok w that.

  4. Life is all about Service to other because all human will die, service that they did will make them remembered

  5. I wish Ted Talks has some sort of Quality Control
    Lately I have been watching a bunch a rubbish like this on this channel

  6. Truth is, most people Do far more than one thing/one purpose.
    When faced with some (mentally limited) person, telling me “you’re just a _[fill in blank of career name]_; you’re not qualified to talk about _[fill in other career]_!”
    Don’t feel bad. Instead, let that person know: they clearly don’t know you or your other abilities; then, ask them if they are “just a _[insert job title]_?” Of course, they will feel just as repelled by anyone describing them as limited!
    Now there’s more room for discussion about what each knows how to do, & how those skills & knowledge can be used to better the situation at hand.

  7. Pffff this video is about how to find your elevator pitch not life purpose. And you surely are not just a name btw.

  8. Well what life is all about is love something, start doing it , hardwork , never give up , failure , succes , excellency awards , finaly you feel satisfied, then grab a bike or something and start wandering the world untill last breath.
    Basic qualification is good health.

  9. This is not finding one’s life purpose. You’re asking them what they do now but most people in the room admitted they don’t know their life purpose right now. Life purpose isn’t always what you’re doing now.

  10. This is the first Ted talk that made me cry! The reason it made me cry is because one time a pastor told me that your purpose in life is not your job or your career. I beg to differ I am a nurse my name is Pam I help everybody they need my help and they feel better after I take care of him nursing is a calling it is my purpose in this life in this journey to have compassion and love for people who need help.

  11. @3:58 –How to know your life purpose in five simple points: Who you are, what you do, who you do it for, what people want and need, and how they change as a result.

  12. How to find your life purpose in 5 minutes. watches 10 minute video to find out my purpose in 5 minutes

  13. I guess I've known my purpose, I answered all 5 without hesitation and ease, found this very helpful and now I'll focus on my purpose

  14. If you don't even worry about your purpose then there's nothing to worry about. Stop asking yourself silly questions. There is no purpose. A purpose is just an idea that the human mind came up with.

  15. It takes much, much longer than 5 minutes to really answer those questions. I've found the answers but it took me 33 years of adulthood.

  16. I absolutely nailed that first question, im 1/5 of the way to understanding the purpose of my life😁

  17. My name is Sally
    I am creative
    I knit and crochet blankets and clothes with wool for warmth
    Everybody
    Warmth and Love
    Life purpose: to be creative to bring warmth and love to Everybody

  18. Who they were
    What they did
    Who they did it for
    What those people wanted or needed
    How do they change as a result of what you gave them

  19. Let me see – it could go like this; I'm Fred, work in a call/contact centre – take a tonne of angry calls – I teach them to stop bouncing cheques – I do it for financial failures – they want a free lunch – they hang up angry and try another agent to allow them to bounce their cheques and I hate it! Sooo that's my life's purpose – Hmmmmm, I don't think so!!!

  20. There’s no way 80% of his classmates would admit to being unhappy. People are so full of b.s these days pretending how great their lives are.

  21. Making other people happy and you'll be happy it's not that hard to understand just like if you make sure others are okay then you'll be okay. Everyone in the comments speaking negatively is searching for validation from others.

  22. now I know what went wrong, I don't have something that i can teach other people. I mean, I do lots of things, but i'm not good with anything

  23. I had to read the comments to understand his point better, what he sugests will keep ypu in your status quo

  24. There is NO purpose. People who want to know their life purposes are the ones who are unhappy. If people are happy, they will not even think about their life purposes.

  25. there is a fault in this
    .. i am malthe .. i play music.. for myself.. i need purpose .. i dont ..

  26. I have known for a long time that titles containing something like "5 ways to" or "20 facts" always warrant an instant ["three dot thingy" -> "not interested" -> "not interested in this channel"] and the suggested videos will become more useful as a result. But man, even talks that advertise the time it takes to do something? Are these, too, always clickbait?

  27. Your life purpose is to find meaning in any situation of your life. Like pay-as-you-go …you love yourself so much that you are ok even with being financially rich and even being in concentration camp..you find meaning in everything even it is making you suffer. You find meaning in suffering if you have no other option. That's your life purpose. To adjust your meaning to your life journey while it is happening and live a life to be proud of at the end of your days. When you look back you will say – I did my best, I am proud.

  28. That could be right in a humanistic economy ,unfortunately a monetary market globalsists economy tells us everyday our life purpose is making money .

  29. so what you actually mean is that life's purpose is to share your made up purpose with others and find joy in talking to each other about it – thanks!

  30. crock of shite. You are not here for some mysterious purpose. Want to be happy, just treat life as a dance. There is no point in it. Just enjoyment. Don't even have to dance well, just enjoy the process.

  31. Because of sin we have been separated from God our creator, but His son Jesus Christ bought us back on the cross, and the door is open right now to accept Him as your savior, we are all lost wondering sheep an He is our shepherd that leads us in the right direction, what He offers is the greatest gift we can ever receive.

  32. It took a long time, but I’ve known my purpose life’s purpose since a child. It was extremely buried due to life experiences, but it’s re-emerged after some self discovery. Not knowing can cause extreme depression. My thing is it’s scary, if I start living in it and it doesn’t come into fruition I will not be happy. I guess this is what many people are dealing with. It shall come in Jesus Name! Now to get to work 💪🏾🏃🏾‍♀️👩🏾‍⚖️

  33. How silly of ME. It's my life's purpose and why am I listening from some one outside of me. I realised this in 5 minutes. Here I go for more self introspection.

  34. It takes 10 minutes to tell us how to find our life purpose in 5 minutes? That when you know someone doesn’t know what they’re talking about.

  35. How to know your life purpose in 5 seconds – REPRODUCE AND DIE
    (alternately – have you ever considered the purpose of your life is to be a warning to others)

  36. Whatever dude. I been doing ** for people my whole life. When is someone going to do something for me? Get the ** outta here. LIES!!!!!!

  37. I inspire others to become who they were meant to be & NOT what they were told that they aren’t by using creativity & innovation through media, Hip Hop , public speaking & the arts!

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