How to fix a broken heart | Guy Winch

How to fix a broken heart | Guy Winch

At some point in our lives, almost every one of us
will have our heart broken. My patient Kathy planned her wedding
when she was in middle school. She would meet her future husband by age 27, get engaged a year later and get married a year after that. But when Kathy turned 27,
she didn’t find a husband. She found a lump in her breast. She went through many months
of harsh chemotherapy and painful surgeries, and then just as she was ready
to jump back into the dating world, she found a lump in her other breast and had to do it all over again. Kathy recovered, though, and she was eager to resume
her search for a husband as soon as her eyebrows grew back in. When you’re going
on first dates in New York City, you need to be able to express
a wide range of emotions. (Laughter) Soon afterwards,
she met Rich and fell in love. The relationship was everything
she hoped it would be. Six months later, after a lovely weekend in New England, Rich made reservations
at their favorite romantic restaurant. Kathy knew he was going to propose, and she could barely
contain her excitement. But Rich did not propose
to Kathy that night. He broke up with her. As deeply as he cared
for Kathy — and he did — he simply wasn’t in love. Kathy was shattered. Her heart was truly broken,
and she now faced yet another recovery. But five months after the breakup, Kathy still couldn’t stop
thinking about Rich. Her heart was still very much broken. The question is: Why? Why was this incredibly strong
and determined woman unable to marshal the same
emotional resources that got her through four years
of cancer treatments? Why do so many of us flounder when we’re trying
to recover from heartbreak? Why do the same coping mechanisms that get us through all kinds
of life challenges fail us so miserably
when our heart gets broken? In over 20 years of private practice, I have seen people
of every age and background face every manner of heartbreak, and what I’ve learned is this: when your heart is broken, the same instincts you ordinarily rely on will time and again lead you
down the wrong path. You simply cannot trust
what your mind is telling you. For example, we know from studies
of heartbroken people that having a clear understanding
of why the relationship ended is really important
for our ability to move on. Yet time and again, when we are offered a simple
and honest explanation like the one Rich offered Kathy, we reject it. Heartbreak creates
such dramatic emotional pain, our mind tells us the cause
must be equally dramatic. And that gut instinct is so powerful, it can make even the most reasonable
and measured of us come up with mysteries
and conspiracy theories where none exist. Kathy became convinced
something must have happened during her romantic getaway with Rich that soured him on the relationship, and she became obsessed
with figuring out what that was. And so she spent countless hours going through every minute
of that weekend in her mind, searching her memory for clues
that were not there. Kathy’s mind tricked her
into initiating this wild goose chase. But what compelled her to commit to it
for so many months? Heartbreak is far more insidious
than we realize. There is a reason we keep going
down one rabbit hole after another, even when we know it’s going
to make us feel worse. Brain studies have shown that the withdrawal of romantic love activates the same mechanisms
in our brain that get activated when addicts are withdrawing
from substances like cocaine or opioids. Kathy was going through withdrawal. And since she could not have
the heroin of actually being with Rich, her unconscious mind chose
the methadone of her memories with him. Her instincts told her
she was trying to solve a mystery, but what she was actually doing was getting her fix. This is what makes heartbreak
so difficult to heal. Addicts know they’re addicted. They know when they’re shooting up. But heartbroken people do not. But you do now. And if your heart is broken,
you cannot ignore that. You have to recognize that,
as compelling as the urge is, with every trip down memory lane,
every text you send, every second you spend
stalking your ex on social media, you are just feeding your addiction, deepening your emotional pain and complicating your recovery. Getting over heartbreak is not a journey. It’s a fight, and your reason
is your strongest weapon. There is no breakup explanation
that’s going to feel satisfying. No rationale can take away
the pain you feel. So don’t search for one,
don’t wait for one, just accept the one you were offered
or make up one yourself and then put the question to rest, because you need that closure
to resist the addiction. And you need something else as well: you have to be willing to let go, to accept that it’s over. Otherwise, your mind
will feed on your hope and set you back. Hope can be incredibly destructive
when your heart is broken. Heartbreak is a master manipulator. The ease with which it gets our mind
to do the absolute opposite of what we need in order to recover is remarkable. One of the most common tendencies
we have when our heart is broken is to idealize the person who broke it. We spend hours remembering their smile, how great they made us feel, that time we hiked up the mountain
and made love under the stars. All that does is make our loss
feel more painful. We know that. Yet we still allow our mind to cycle
through one greatest hit after another, like we were being held hostage by our own
passive-aggressive Spotify playlist. (Laughter) Heartbreak will make those thoughts
pop into your mind. And so to avoid idealizing,
you have to balance them out by remembering their frown,
not just their smile, how bad they made you feel, the fact that after the lovemaking,
you got lost coming down the mountain, argued like crazy
and didn’t speak for two days. What I tell my patients
is to compile an exhaustive list of all the ways
the person was wrong for you, all the bad qualities, all the pet peeves, and then keep it on your phone. (Laughter) And once you have your list, you have to use it. When I hear even a hint of idealizing or the faintest whiff
of nostalgia in a session, I go, “Phone, please.” (Laughter) Your mind will try to tell you
they were perfect. But they were not,
and neither was the relationship. And if you want to get over them,
you have to remind yourself of that, frequently. None of us is immune to heartbreak. My patient Miguel was a 56-year-old
senior executive in a software company. Five years after his wife died, he finally felt ready
to start dating again. He soon met Sharon, and a whirlwind romance ensued. They introduced each other
to their adult children after one month, and they moved in together after two. When middle-aged people date,
they don’t mess around. It’s like “Love, Actually”
meets “The Fast and the Furious.” (Laughter) Miguel was happier
than he had been in years. But the night before
their first anniversary, Sharon left him. She had decided to move to the West Coast
to be closer to her children, and she didn’t want
a long-distance relationship. Miguel was totally blindsided
and utterly devastated. He barely functioned at work
for many, many months, and he almost lost his job as a result. Another consequence of heartbreak
is that feeling alone and in pain can significantly impair
our intellectual functioning, especially when performing complex tasks
involving logic and reasoning. It temporarily lowers our IQ. But it wasn’t just the intensity
of Miguel’s grief that confused his employers; it was the duration. Miguel was confused by this as well and really quite embarrassed by it. “What’s wrong with me?”
he asked me in our session. “What adult spends almost a year
getting over a one-year relationship?” Actually, many do. Heartbreak shares all the hallmarks
of traditional loss and grief: insomnia, intrusive thoughts, immune system dysfunction. Forty percent of people experience
clinically measurable depression. Heartbreak is a complex
psychological injury. It impacts us in a multitude of ways. For example, Sharon was both very social and very active. She had dinners at the house every week. She and Miguel went on camping trips
with other couples. Although Miguel was not religious, he accompanied Sharon
to church every Sunday, where he was welcomed
into the congregation. Miguel didn’t just lose his girlfriend; he lost his entire social life, the supportive community
of Sharon’s church. He lost his identity as a couple. Now, Miguel recognized the breakup
had left this huge void in his life, but what he failed to recognize is that it left far more than just one. And that is crucial, not just because it explains
why heartbreak could be so devastating, but because it tells us how to heal. To fix your broken heart, you have to identify these voids
in your life and fill them, and I mean all of them. The voids in your identity: you have to reestablish who you are
and what your life is about. The voids in your social life, the missing activities,
even the empty spaces on the wall where pictures used to hang. But none of that will do any good unless you prevent the mistakes
that can set you back, the unnecessary searches for explanations, idealizing your ex instead of focusing
on how they were wrong for you, indulging thoughts and behaviors
that still give them a starring role in this next chapter of your life when they shouldn’t be an extra. Getting over heartbreak is hard, but if you refuse to be misled
by your mind and you take steps to heal, you can significantly minimize
your suffering. And it won’t just be you
who benefit from that. You’ll be more present with your friends, more engaged with your family, not to mention the billions of dollars
of compromised productivity in the workplace that could be avoided. So if you know someone who is heartbroken, have compassion, because social support has been found
to be important for their recovery. And have patience, because it’s going to take them longer
to move on than you think it should. And if you’re hurting, know this: it’s difficult, it is a battle
within your own mind, and you have to be diligent to win. But you do have weapons. You can fight. And you will heal. Thank you. (Applause)

100 thoughts on “How to fix a broken heart | Guy Winch

  1. What he said about it being a fight and reason being the best weapon you have to win it is correct. But the weapon only works in accordance with the user in the fight. As in, you'll have to be able to face your demons, accept the stuff, and literally, be able to comprehend reason. As in, fight yourself on the inside to get out. Often, it's not just the heart that's broken, it's the person themselves.

  2. The pain of separation for me is the broken promises and the deceit of plans for the future. It was all a blanket of deception to ensure that you did not leave them and that you were just the place holder whilst they were shopping for a new partner.

  3. One of the painful is that you did your best, you been loyal, you love her so much than anything but still not enough, it's hurts a lot.

  4. 5 months? It's been 15 years for me after 15 years of marriage. It will never go away. I don't have hope. I have disappointment.

  5. I am 15 and I missed a girl I encountered only for 1 or 2 weeks for an entire year and a few months

    whats wrong with me?

  6. “Love's always gonna require a huge leap of faith, a big scary leap over a hot pit of lava, and you might end up heartbroken, but you might be the happiest person on the face of the earth.” -vampire diaries

  7. Females don’t really experience heartbreak like guys do. They’re usually the ones to cause it by all the cheating and the “falling out of love”. Any female who is heartbroken over a guy really only has herself to blame because there are millions of single guys who’d be more than happy to be with them. I stopped listening to the bullshit anecdote about Cathy

  8. I've learnt, there is no right man, they are nothing but trouble, once things get a little hard or something they may not understand, they run. Its best to stay away.

  9. I know it’s sucks. It truly feels like your entire world is over and that you are never going to feel happy again. I promise you will feel happiness again, your world is not over. And you will meet someone in the future who makes you realize why you are going through this heart break right now

  10. The only reason why you feel pain in your heart is because you didn't give yourself enough love, you relied on the other person to provide for you a sense of love. And no person ever can fulfill that request, because that's not what a relationship is for!

    This is why when you take the time to heal for yourself and give yourself attention and love that's when that void is filled up.

    Heartbreak isn't about someone else it's about you.

  11. I've been through this before and got over it. It was really hard. Even months after, I was still sad. I remember I was still feeling lonely and hopeless when I met this amazing girl that I thought would be the one. Almost one year and half after of a lot of love and dedication to make it work she gave up on us. We have different personalities, I'm more introvert, showing love mostly through actions. She is more of an extrovert that connect through words and deep conversations. I love her so much but she thinks these differences makes her unhappy and disconnected. I tried my best to adapt and change. To commit, to get out of my comfort zone, to make it work. I never gave up and wanted to make it work. We had amazing, beautiful moments together. One day we had a small, silly discussion, I didn't react perfectly and she left me. I tried everything I could but I'm just being rejected and ignored. It's so hard. I have so much love to offer if she could only see my intentions. If I ever have the chance to love someone again, I have to remember to always act like you can lose her tomorrow. So don't forget to be your best self every single day. It hurts so bad.

  12. My girlfriend was forced to break up with me only because her parents. They denied me only because I was from a different caste. It hurts so bad because we never wanted to be apart. Our relation was so full of energy. It had made both of us better persons. But their parents never listened to us and sticked to their irrational point. They blamed her for their health issues. They blackmailed her that they will break all ties with her if she marry me. She could not face so much pressure and broke up with me. I don't care about my depression, but I am getting mad because I know she loves me and she is breaking inside in pain. It is too hard for us.

  13. Thank you and I followed the instructions and saw for the first time why my heartbreaks happened in the first place.

  14. "Hope can be incredibly desteuctive when your heart is broken" lol my exs name was hope and yes yes it can be

  15. That 1% of H O P E is what's killing me. I feel like I'm gonna go crazy.
    But one day I want to look back at this comment and laugh until my tummy hurts.

  16. Thank you ❤I learned a lot from this video. Let me add something to that ..

    The truth behind third parties 😉

    God Bless everyone..

  17. Thanks. This really helps me right now. Seeing a lot of other people have also go through this phase kind of gives me strength

  18. I remember there was this how I met your mother episode where everyone had somebody on the hook or in this case gave them hope that one day they could be together. And ever since I saw that episode I have to have a clear and honest yes or no. And to everyone else, don't let anybody keep you on the hook. You're too good for somebody that can't be honest with you.

  19. I clicked on this video to let everyone know before they commit 20 minutes to watch this. It’s bob ross… you fix a broken heart through many bob ross painting tutorials

  20. Oh my, I have to share this: dealing with one right now, but… it's complicated. It had been a 3-month relationship till she said she couldn't do it anymore – not that long but it was truly intense and built a deep connection. Thing is, it started out pretty casually and she was the one who started feeding it with passion and expectations. When I first noticed it, I was the one concerned with not reciprocating, but as it turned out I did until she eventually found out that she wasn't quite feeling it (!). It was really painful, but we talked afterwards and I understood that she indeed had feelings and wanted to stay in touch, just couldn't deliver commitment on the same basis. So, what we're looking at right now is a more casual thing, where we meet weekly and give each other more space apart from that. We met a couple of times after that and it was actually great, but emotions get mixed up too. My thoughts vary from seeing it either as a great experiment and reinvention or a recipe for more pain and disappointment, but I'm literally in the middle of it and we're trying to trust each other to be honest and caring. So in short I'm at the same time dealing with a broken heart, excited with a new relationship and concerned about its basis. Am I too crazy for trying to see it in more nuanced colors than plain black and white?

  21. Thanks to the government people watching over me. Just broke up 2 days ago but here is this Ted talk on my recommendations.

  22. Am nursing a broken heart 💔 right now, I came here to check how I can heal, but it hurts so much, not sure if I’ll make it out alive, I’m dying 😵

  23. The thing is, you don’t need to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship for it to be heartbreak. It can be someone you love (had a crush on and fell in love with for example) that broke your heart. They gave you everything you could’ve ever asked for, you planned futures in your head and they were in it. They were always in your mind when you heard their favorite song, or when your friends talked about them. They are always going to have a special place in your heart, even if they don’t have any room for you in theirs.

  24. I got the "we need to take a break" and be friends. She hasn't tried to initiate a conversation to see how I'm doing and I dont want to try and start a conversation if they wanted time apart in the first place. I've been dying inside and have been distracting myself with destructive habits. I really needed this right now.

  25. All I see are comments about "you will find better" or "you're too good for them". But what about when the problem was me and I'm the villain? With my drinking and drug use. I cheated on her twice in the 8 years we had together. My manic depression with highs and lows. She was so understanding and put up with it for 8 fucking years. I've told her so many times to just leave me as ill drag her down even further. I know I've caused her so much damage. She's finally left me and I'm not fighting it. She truly deserves to be so much happier than how she was with me. But it aches so very much. I know it was all me. She wasn't bad. My addiction just ruined it all. I feel like I'm not even entitled to be heartbroken because of how it was mostly my doing. Now I'm all alone again and I don't know what to do. I'm a broken person. More so than before. I've lost all my greatest friends and now my best one. I don't know how to feel or even look at this. I think it's a regret I won't ever overcome because she was brilliant.

  26. When you're just about to move on but then you remember how she used to smile and the feeling you got when she first hugged you

  27. I know if you are here you got rejected or broken up with you feel like you could have mist your chance with your soul mate i felt the same i chased after a girl for 1 year just 2 get rejected i was heart broken it took me a while and i finally moved on and 3 weeks later i found some who i like and likes me back remember even as hard as it can be move on there will be some 1 els

  28. It's been a month since he and me broke up. I cried it out loud two times: the very first night, and a week after. I keep myself busy during the day, life's good, like nothing happen. People barely notice I have a void in my heart. But when I tried to sleep at night, the thought of our times together and "where did it go wrong" starts creeping up on my head.. and I silently crying until I fall asleep almost everyday. My mind keeps telling me to stop this, but oh boy. This is the time where you need what people called 'God'.

  29. What I'm struggling is that my boyfriend and I just broke up. It wasnf because he didnt love me or didn't care. It was his mental health was so bad he felt like he was drowning and he said he felt like he couldn't look after me and himself. How do you move on from that? He wants to be friends. He told me he loves me and wants all the best for me. The days are so hard at the moment

  30. It’s been a month since my relationship ended and I have been having a really hard time moving on with my life. I really needed to watch this video, I’ve been doing all the wrong things and that’s why I’m in such pain. Things are going to be different for me from now on, my battle starts now.

  31. 2019 / 46 yro.. yup I have to realize and accept singleness is my life and that’s never gonna change 😔 I’ll never find the man of my dreams..

  32. Thank you for this video! It helps me to understand what is going in with my mind.
    I would like to hear advice specifically for heartbreak after separation from a sibling, because sibling relationships are different in some aspects. How do I accept, that my sibling doesn't want to see me again?

  33. Me and my ex were together for 9years and out of no where u got into a argument and now she blocked me from everything and this was 4 days ago I cant sleep eat think nuthing I got into a depression stage rn and really dont know what's going to happen anymore just wish i died tbh like rn I cant even sleep and its 5 am

  34. When we try to face life challenges we are regarded as brave….but when we have a heart break we feel like we have some defects in us ….. that's why we fail to overcome a heart easily .,..

  35. Its so refreshing to see a comment section filled with so much positivity and people trying to support others. Sharing advice and experiences. This is dope

  36. Months to get over an ex?
    How about years?
    Each of my relationships took 3 or more years to recover from.
    What helped with 2 of those was hope. I was young enough to hope that i would find love elsewhere eventually. And i did.
    But this last break up… i dont have that. At 47 i knew going in to the this last relationship that it was the last chance. I knew i would likely not survive the break up well enough to be mentally or emotionally prepared to begin another. Its been almost 3 years now… and i am still fucked right up, with no end to it in sight.
    And so the moral of the story? Hope is what gets you through. But it is limited.

  37. There's this side of us, our deepest wishes was to make them realize how much pain that we went through.
    The grief and anger of our broken pride and esteem, the psychological process of wanting to make them feel the pain.. and maybe.. maybe.. there's a slight chance of changing theirs minds.. be able to see what our value is.. to be able to see the things that we did for them..

    I was like this.. I was..
    I'm telling you to whoever reading this don't be like me.. don't follow my path, the path of revenge. I was broken so much that I even put pressure on her, I used psychological threats of me killing myself, and so on.. I was suicidal and depress.. feeling of wanting to end my life.
    I was like this a couple of months ago.
    Please don't be like me.
    Because you may severe the chances of getting back together, if ever you want him/her back.

    Right now, I severed all of my ties with her including social media, friends who's close to her.
    I might regret this but I want to be free from this cycle inside my head.

    The old me, the old me who loved her with all of my heart, I was there for her when she needed someone, I was there when she needed help, I was there for her when she needs advice and help from her studies/homeworks/projects. I was a pillar of support in her life. I did everything that I could, I never complained for the entire 4 years of being together even if we are separated by distance.
    I miss the old me, I miss the feeling of love.
    But that "Me" back then has now died.
    The old "me" is dead.

  38. Can you show me how to let go and accept that it’s over? It’s Been more than a month now, and it still feels fresh 😢😢

  39. Okay, guys, I'm kinda fucked right now and I'm in a bad position in life. I got together with this girl for about a year ago and we were together until a week before Christmas break and this was my first "real" relationship, she was my first in everything. During the beginning of the relationship, I fell madly in love with her and thought she was the one and she did the same with me. But after about a month had passed, some toxic behaviors started showing up. I had a problem with her still typing with her ex-boyfriend before me because I was insecure about what they were talking about and one day I saw that they typed "ily" to each other which made me really sad but she started to cry instead and I asked for forgiveness for feeling sad about it. Later that month, it was my 18th birthday and I was going to my family's archipelago up in the mountains to celebrate. During this time I was away she asked if it was okay if she visits her old boyfriend to watch a movie and my reply was this "I'm never going to forbid you to meet anyone, that's your choice, but if you meet him I'm going to be really scared and a little bit sad", to account, the day was my birthday too. Later that day I see her outside on snapchat and I asked what she was doing and she replied "on my way to him and his two friends", I literally broke down in tears and started shaking because of my anxiety. She then yelled at me and said to her that I told her it was okay with me and then I got mad at that which lead to her ignoring me totally and still going home to him alone to watch a movie and I laid on my bathroom floor on the edge of passing out. When I came home to toxicity continued and she was so anxious about me cheating on her that I deleted about all my contacts but she was still worried about what I did in school, hooking up in bathrooms or something I don't know, didn't ask. Then one day she saw a snapchat from a woman classmate was she wrote "thx hubby" because I've made "fun" of her hurting her back falling down a set of stairs. She got so mad a that, that she kicked me really damn hard in the back, even got bruises, and she brought her mom in to try talking me into canceling the communication with my classmate because it's on the same level as her ex-boyfriend. After this, I had a couple of more accidents with her as preventing her from cutting herself, committing suicide by medicine and extreme jealousy. I, during this time, was also facing my own problems with extreme anxiety (been to therapy for about 8 years) and depression so this wasn't really helping me out and she couldn't be there for me when I needed her. It started to get closer to Christmas break and I have a ski lodge and I started to daydream with her about joining me to that place. So we started to talk about it, just me and her, on a daily basis and one day she showed me her new ski outfit that she bought, this was not good. The reason why it wasn't good was that we were the only one who has been talking about this so I told her that I needed to tell my parents first and she became extremely low. But when I told my parents they were all in on the ide, even though they questioned the relationship because of how I felt. The deal was this, she was going to take the bus up 2 days before Christmas and stay until 3 days after new years eve and we would pay for everything. By everything, I mean everything, tickets for the bus, ski gear, food, and drinks. So I became extremely happy and ran back to her to bring her to me (she lives in the same neighborhood). After my parents had told her I could see her disappointment and became really low and when the news was over she needed to talk to her mom and I would follow her. During this 2 minute walk, she told me that I've destroyed her Christmas break because she couldn't stay during the whole break (she had to leave 2 days before the break ended). I tried to hug her but she pushed me away and ran the rest of the way home. I went home and cried of feeling bad and I woke up to messages from her was she tanked me for destroying the Christmas for her. I broke up with her after this because I couldn't take it any longer and then she became the person I fell in love with. She then, for a 3-4 month time wrote to me everywhere, stalked me and tried meeting me by "surprise" at the train. The story is a lot bigger than this and more things have happened and I can tell you more if you want. But my problem is that I feel so much for her and I just want to snuggle in at her bed with her head on my chest and I'm afraid that ill never be able to feel this for another person. What should and can I do?

  40. I got hit in a motorway by a car while riding my mororcycle, almost got fired, lost my father, … All in a year and a half…I was always a loner, little or no friends. And was able to get through all that and actually got tougher. Than I met the most amazing and beautiful girl. We were together for six months. I wanted to marry her, have kids with her. She left me for another guy two months ago. I see them in love on Instagram. I am completely destroyed. I don't have purpose in life, I don't know how to deal with this but I can't give up hope of being with her. That's what is keeping me going day in day out. Ive been dumped before, but Ive never felt this way. Im empty, Im lost. I got a new job and a good one, Im healthy, have a nice car, Im still relatively young and yet I thing about checking out every single day. Nothing means anything any more.

  41. I just got my heart broken and Idk how to act i feel empty, and useless and i wonder why i wasn’t good enough for him

  42. In my first two relationships my partners had been the ones at fault. They both cheated on me and had been the weak link -the ones to blame. In my third and most recent relationship, this time it was me. I cheated, I didnt put in the effort. Even though she had been the greatest girl to ever come my way. I still can't fully explain my actions or why I did the things I did. I hate myself for the damage I caused, for not showing her how much she meant to me, and for my immaturity. Ultimately she left me 6 months ago and is now happy with someone else. She was the most caring person I ever knew and Im a fool.

    Take it from me, it's easier to leave someone that hurt you in the past, than it is to be the one responsible for the pain. If someone ever loves me again the way she did, I will never take that for granted.

  43. I'm not good at sharing but by seeing so many comments I got courage to write something.

    It's been almost 3 months and I feel like I'm paralyzed. One year ago I had a break up but kept on trying to fix it. 3 months back, we finally broke up but the saddest thing this time is that I can't cry. I'm like a living dead body with no feelings. Tried different things(travelling, gym etc) to move on but nothing worked . From every failure, my mind starts thinking of new ideas to stalk her in social media . I also ended up begging her to stay in my life somehow, as I needed her. Nothing worked.

    Now I'm trying to fight with my own mind because I know my mind is the main culprit.
    My future is dark, hopes are numb
    But I'll keep on fighting untill this disease is done.
    We will all overcome one day.

  44. What I love the most about your message, along side the content, is your sincerity and compassion as you speak. Thank you for being a reflection of empathy and love towards others.

  45. Its dangerous to have your love and your best friend, in the same person. You lose so much, and you cant even talk to her about it. Its especially tough when your a guy. Women support each others emotional health. Men will destroy other men for even admitting you have emotions. Imagine being a man with one person to talk to about the love of your life leaving you because she wasnt happy, and she was that person.

    I honestly envy the selfish and the careless. They are the truly blessed people. They don't give any lifetime achievement awards for being strong enough to just achieve a full lifetime.

    The heart is the most beautiful disaster waiting to happen.

  46. Convincing broken heart 💔 is like letting go your own love 💖 by himself ….and it is more painful when you can still see each other almost everyday , it's a same feeling like someone is smothering you and asked not to fight back for the life

  47. Now i understand why my whole life got ruined 3 years back and i thought i was the only Idiot doing all this to myself and no one ,no one helped me ease that pain but instead made it worse ,i understand why he said have Compassion.

  48. If someone is breaking up with you doesn't mean he/she didn't care for you. Breaking up is painful too. Sometimes it's better to do it for both people sakes.

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