How to achieve ANY goal you set by REWRITING your past

How to achieve ANY goal you set by REWRITING your past

If your life isn’t moving in the direction
you want it to go, or if you feel overwhelmed by everything on your plate, then this video
is for you. You can apply the methods in this video and
see immediate results. If you develop a habit of applying the methods
shown in this video, then you can learn how to achieve any goal you set. What’s up, everybody? Tanvir Ahmed here. Welcome back to another video. And if you’re watching this video, which
obviously you are, I’m grateful to have you. Life is harder now because our world is designed
to distract us. Our world is more confusing than ever. This is no secret. Depression and anxiety rates are skyrocketing. Addiction is an epidemic. Obesity continues to rise. General unhappiness, numbness, and dissatisfaction
are basically the expected norm. Gratitude is the mother of virtues. You’ve heard that a thousand times. But what does it actually mean to be grateful? Clearly, it isn’t writing down a list of
things that you’re grateful for once per year on Thanksgiving. And even though that is a helpful exercise,
there’s a lot more to it, and it’s not that complicated. Fundamentally, gratitude is intended to change
three things: your past, your present, and you guessed it, your future. If you’re not transforming your past, present,
and future, then you aren’t fully experiencing the benefits of gratitude. Every morning, you have the opportunity to
trigger a mental and emotional state that sustains throughout the whole day. If you start your day right, you’ll be shocked
at the momentum you can create. So here’s how to apply the three methods
of gratitude. First, let’s talk about transforming your
past. Dan Sullivan, the founder of Strategic Coach,
has a very important concept he teaches entrepreneurs: he calls it “The Gap and the Gain.” Most people are living in “The Gap.” They see what’s missing. For example, you could get your son a candy
bar on your way home from work and when you give it to him, he might say, “You didn’t
get the one I like.” Your son didn’t notice or appreciate the
fact that you went out of your way to get him a gift. He only noticed that the thing wasn’t what
it could have been. He didn’t realize that he gained something. He only saw the gap. Most people live their entire lives in the
gap. Dan teaches his entrepreneurs instead to live
in the gain. This is actually quite simple: rather than
measuring yourself against your ideal scenario, you measure yourself against where you were
before. This is very effective for goal setting. Most people don’t like goals because being
ambitious is emotionally taxing. It hurts to fail and it’s a letdown to succeed. But these emotional problems come from focusing
on the wrong thing. People get emotionally attached to the outcomes
when they’re living in the gap. When you live in the gain, all you see is
progress. What you focus on expands. When all you see is progress, your brain comes
to expect it more and more. You get progress without being attached to
specific outcomes, even though those outcomes come with increased velocity. Every day, you could measure the gain. You could look back at the end of your day
and think to yourself: What were my three greatest wins of the day? Now, as much as “measuring” the gain is
key, you also want to remember the gain. Most people, when they look back on their
past, often remember the gaps. They remember where things didn’t go as
well as they could have. They think about how their parents didn’t
show up as much as they could. It’s very easy in relationships to be in
the gap — where all you see is where the other person isn’t up to par. That’s a horrible way to be in a relationship. It’s also not fair to the other person. Being in the gap forces your brain to think
that things cannot change. It’s how you develop a negatively fixed
mindset. So one of the key strategies of gratitude
to apply is reshaping your memory of the past. Yes, you heard that correctly. Your past is not objective. Rather, your past is entirely subjective. It’s a meaning. Good or bad. Happy or sad. You are the person who ascribes meaning to
your experiences. You are the one ascribing meaning and context
to your past experiences. It’s highly likely that a great deal of
your “past” is in the gap. Gratitude allows you to re-remember your past
while being entirely focused on the gain. Re-remember, yeah, I don’t think that’s
a word. When you re-contextualize your past, you’ll
never be the victim of your past again. Most people, when describing their current
circumstances, point to their past. “I’m the way I am because of so and so…” Your past does not need to be something you
are the victim to. Instead, your past can be something that’s
continually inspiring you and propelling you forward. If you truly want to embody and experience
the benefits of gratitude, then you need to stop looking at it in an objective sense. You cannot say, “But you don’t understand,
my past really is unique and it was horrible.” I’m not trying to downplay what happened
to you. Nor am I trying to ignore the emotional impact
of your previous experiences. What I’m trying to tell you is that, quite
literally, you are the designer of your past. You get to decide the narrative, and the perspective,
and the context. Your past is whatever you ascribe meaning
to. You can remember the gains, or you can remember
the pain. Post-traumatic growth is the opposite of PTSD. You could have any negative experience imaginable
and become better from it. This may take time, but if you are conscious
about your emotions and if you’re conscious about your future, then you can turn any negative
experience into a lot of gain. Your painful experiences become the doorway
to growth and experience, as well as service to others dealing with similar problems. Your biggest failures and problems can be
— if you let them — your greatest drivers of success, learning, and joy. But you need to choose how you see and remember
them. It’s entirely up to you. You can remember the gain or the gap. But how you choose to remember determines
your past. Now, let’s move on to transforming your
present circumstances. Very rarely are you going to be in ideal circumstances. There will always be friction and challenges
to living your dreams. There will always be inconveniences. The problem isn’t actually your circumstances,
but how you’re looking at them. Perfect circumstances are not exactly ideal. If you look at nature — plants and animals
that thrive do so because of difficult circumstances. You don’t want perfect circumstances. You want and need a challenge to grow. But circumstances in general, particularly
your current circumstances, need to be reframed. If you’re going to pay any attention on
your circumstances, you should consciously focus on the good in them. Have gratitude for the amazing people in your
life, for the opportunities you currently have, and for the chance to live on this beautiful
planet. If you’re watching this video, then you
have access to resources that would blow the minds of most of human history. So, as challenging and limiting as your current
circumstances are — you’re probably living in the gap. And when you’re living in the gap, it really
doesn’t matter what you have, you won’t see it that way. You could be a billionaire, and if you’re
living in the gap, it won’t be enough. So, part one of transforming your present
is actually appreciating it. It’s not about your resources, but how resourceful
you are. There are people who have far less and doing
far more with what they have than you are. It’s not your circumstances, it’s you. But there’s actually a problem focusing
on circumstances at all — you’re actually far better off focusing on your capability. This is a powerful shift. If you focus on your circumstances, you’ll
find plenty to complain about. But if you focus on your capability, then
your only option is to get moving. Your capability is always above your circumstances. There is always something you can do to impact
and change your life and move in the direction you want to go. Having gratitude for the opportunity to grow
and move forward is how you change your present. You see all the beauty in what you currently
have, and you recognize the amazing power you have to improve upon what you have. If you’re focused on your capability, then
you’re more likely to put your energy into creating and moving forward. But if you’re more focused on your circumstances,
then you’re more likely to put your energy into consumption and avoidance. How much time are you spending consuming? How much time are you spending creating? If you’re consuming, then you’re likely
living in the gap. You’re likely focused on your circumstances
and what’s wrong and difficult about them. If you’re creating, then your focus isn’t
on your present circumstances, it’s on your future ones. You’re telling a story about your life and
you’re the one creating it. And that is a powerful way to live. Have gratitude for the present and gratitude
for what you can do. This allows you to create powerfully. Moving on, let’s transform your future,
right here and now. You are the designer of your past memories,
your present experiences, and your future as well. Every morning, during your morning meditation
and visualization session, you want to experience and fully embody gratitude for the future. Visualization is far more powerful when it
is mental and emotional. The more emotional and embodied the visualization,
the more you will believe and know that it is true. Gratitude for your future bolsters your faith. It allows you to know that you’ll succeed,
way before you do. While most people are defined by experiences
in their past, successful people are defined by experiences in their future. What experiences do you want to have? What events in your future do you want to
see occur? Are you living your life, right now, as though
those experiences were for sure going to happen? Are you living your life, right now, to consciously
create those experiences? Do you have complete peace that your dreams
will come true? If not, then you likely won’t succeed. Your negative emotional state will stop you
from having the very things you want. Your emotional state is fundamental to what
you create in your life and future. If you’re at a place of acceptance, peace,
and trust, then you’ll be able to navigate the challenges you’ll face toward your dreams. Every day, experience the complete gratitude
for your inevitable success of the future. Then, act the part, here and now. You are the one creating your experience in
life. You are the one who shapes the meaning of
your past. You are the one who determines how well you’ll
do, regardless of the circumstances you are in. Just like your past, your circumstances are
subjective, not objective. Your circumstances are a “meaning” with
which you decide what to do. Focus on your capacity, not your circumstances. When you focus on your capacity, you realize
that you have the power to create your desired future, regardless of what you see in front
of you. When you focus on capacity, you stop being
bogged down by all of the friction and challenges in your current circumstances. Undoubtedly, your life is hard. It’s far from perfect. There are constraints stopping you from actively
moving forward. But in large respect, those constraints are
in your head. Focusing on the constraints only makes them
larger in your mind. Focusing on what you can do right now is how
you change those constraints. You can change your life, one day at a time. Every morning, you can experience huge amounts
of gratitude for your past, your present, and your future. If you take a few minutes to actually do this,
then you’ll be shocked at how good you feel. You’ll be shocked at the hope and optimism
you feel for your future. You’ll have a desire to reach out and connect
with your loved ones, and tell them how grateful you are for them. When you begin operating from a place of true
gratitude, you’ll immediately begin transforming your life and your relationships. What are you waiting for? No more consuming. No more focusing on the problems in your life
or your past. Instead, take ownership of your experiences. Take ownership for your past and the narrative
of your past. You have divine potential and unlimited capacity
— but only if you focus your attention on what you can do, rather than what’s wrong. That’s it for me, guys. I hope you enjoyed this video. I hope you got something out of it. I hope you liked it. Hit that like button if you did. Subscribble and hit the bell if you haven’t already. And I will see you in the next one.

14 thoughts on “How to achieve ANY goal you set by REWRITING your past

  1. Iยดm also here from Ralphs video, I normally dont like when people advertise themselfes on bigger channels. But I think you are coming from the right place by giving value to the world and spread love. Much love to you and everyone who reads this. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Hey brother ! Love what you are doing .. Mine is a newer channel however growing rapidly .Would be great to collaborate a video's my video in gratitude

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