From Depression to Dating Coach | Austen Summers Podcast #1

From Depression to Dating Coach | Austen Summers Podcast #1

[Austen] What’s up guys? [Austen] Austen Summers here [Austen] International dating coach, relationships expert and now… [Austen] Podcaster! [Austen] And this is the Austen Summers Podcast [Austen] Where you’ll get mind-expanding content to attract the girls that you want Yes! Right! Exactly! [Austen] How will you know which videos are podcasts though? [Austen] In the title you’ll see Austen Summers Podcast and an episode number and then the thumbnail you’ll see this [Austen] Or if you prefer an audio only experience, you can listen on any of these platforms [Austen] We actually got our first sponsor today [Austen] Thank you to Austen Summers Academy [Austen] The complete dating system that shows you how to get women into your life [Austen] Step-by-step with tons of examples [Austen] Link in description My nigga! [Austen] And I’m joined today by my good friend João [João] Hey guys, my name is João and I’ve been involved in gaming self-development for the past eight years [João] And today we’re gonna talk about Austen’s [João] Austen’s journey in game, traps you can fall into in life [João] And also why you should only take advice from experts [Austen] You’re gonna learn a shit ton from this video. So lock in, pay attention and let’s get into it [João] Welcome to the first episode of our epic podcast [Austen] Also, I’m asleep right now [Austen] Don’t trust anything I say right now [João] Yeah, we wanted to make sure that you wouldn’t be too overwhelming for our audience like, you know? [Austen] So we just did this in the morning, to be sure [João] Okay so let’s just start with your background story [João] How did you [João] Started trying to seduce women and trying to figure this out for yourself [Austen] Yeah, so I had [Austen] Had a pretty normal childhood, I’d say. But then at a certain point [Austen] I had a lot of things come at me at once [Austen] So when I was 12, I had my mom pass away [Austen] I had my stepdad abandoned me [Austen] I moved in with a family member who wasn’t very emotionally supportive [Austen] And I’ve got my arm put through a window. So I got it, I almost died [Austen] I had a 150 stitches, 56 staples [Austen] I lost like, like a litter and a half of blood. I don’t know, a lot [Austen] And so there was a lot of things that I went through in this one year and then [Austen] After about six months, I started to go into a depression [Austen] Yeah, I should be looking at you [João] I was letting you go [Austen] Yeah, so I got into depression and I was, I was in this deep state of depression for four to five years And it wasn’t until I, you know, moved out of the place that I was living [Austen] And I got some new perspectives that I could actually start to to sense that. Hey, maybe my life could get a little bit better [Austen] And after that point I found self development. So I found, you know things about meditation [Austen] I found like different mindsets and all this stuff was pretty much just online [Austen] So it wasn’t like I was reading books at the time. I was just, I just found YouTube videos [Austen] And I just started implementing that, the information I got [Austen] Yeah, so I started doing self-development and then eventually I found pickup and game [Austen] But I realized I was like, I’m too emotionally fucked up to talk to another human being right now [Austen] So let me fix a little bit more of that issue [Austen] And so then I did some more [Austen] Internal work, if you will, and I started talking to people after that, not hot girls [Austen] But just people
[João] Men especially [Austen] And so when I was talking to these people I had noticed that I [Austen] Had very short interactions. I was very nervous with it [Austen] And then over time I just became more and more relaxed with just talking to people [Austen] So instead of talking to the lunch lady [Austen] For, you know 15 seconds and then and then running away because I was too afraid [Austen] I was able to have like longer [Austen] Conversations with people and I feel like I am [Austen] Partially autistic in a way. Where it’s like I have or just very nerdy in a way where I I don’t even like [Austen] Talking that much or I don’t like.. Because you are the…This guy wakes up at 7 a.m. He starts [Austen] Talking to himself [Austen] Talking to himself in the mirror, talking to anyone on the phone [Austen] And I need like a lot of time to just be alone and relax and chill [Austen] So but whatever, I built that up over time and it was like any time I’d go out [Austen] It seemed like it was very very draining to just talk to a human being so [Austen] I would go out to let’s say a club [Austen] And I would talk for [Austen] Five minutes and then I felt oh my god, I’m just drained my energy [Austen] I need to go home [Austen] So I couldn’t maintain like a happy positive state for more than five minutes without feeling like I needed to take a nap [Austen] Like I couldn’t like talk to another human for that long without like feeling like I need to fall asleep [Austen] So I basically [Austen] Every step of the way was very very very [Austen] Hard work for me. And I think that’s why I got so far it’s because I put in hard work and I [Austen] I could just continue that path [Austen] So instead of being like a natural here, you know who has these like, you know, there’s pros and cons to being a natural I [Austen] I started out down here, but I moved up over time and that eventually you just become better than these naturals in a way [Austen] Yeah, so that’s that’s kind of my story with the success with women thing is I just kind of I was at a very very [Austen] Low point in my life [Austen] I came up [Austen] Found self development got even farther and then I, you know found success with women’s stuff [Austen] After a while, I started implementing it [Austen] And yeah, so that’s, that’s a brief recap I don’t want to rant yeah, yeah no one gives a shit [João] No, no one cares man, you’re alone in this world [Austen] Yeah, I also wanted to, it’s sometimes I’ll see other people [Austen] Like even you, who’s just like you’re just like naturally extroverted, you talk to anyone and just non-stop verbal content [Austen] I’m like, damn like if only I didn’t have such a shitty like adolescence [Austen] If I wasn’t so traumatizedin the past, maybe this would be the case and some people say like [Austen] You uh, it’s like a lifetime journey kind of getting over your own bullshit in a way [Austen] It’s a lifetime journey of like letting go of the past and I kind of [Austen] Agree with that to a certain extent [João] Yeah, me too me too I also have a bullshit [João] I talk talk talk [João] But you know, I also have bullshit to deal with, like get over it [Austen] Hope you can here everything [João] I don’t like to hear that [Austen] This was the weirdest moment in our podcast so far, it just started but you know [João] So, okay but what is game right? What is.. [Austen] That’s game [João] You just gamed me, I’m in, I’m in [Austen] Game to me is a few things [Austen] But mainly it’s basically [Austen] How to communicate with someone, to give them a good experience [Austen] Move that forward toward having sex in a non-judgmental way [Austen] So, the first part would be [Austen] Giving out good energy. So you’ve kind of eliminated all those needy, taking [Austen] Fucking toxic [Austen] Qualities about yourself, which everyone has, we’re looking at the camera [Austen] Everyone has them. If you don’t, if you think that you don’t have them and you’re like [Austen] “Hey, Austen” [Austen] I’m just wondering about, hum text game [Austen] It’s just my text game, you know, if I just get my text game handled [Austen] Then all these bitches will be hanging out with me [Austen] But what they don’t realize is that these guys are are needy, they’re toxic [Austen] They have certain things in their past that are holding them back [Austen] So there’s a couple things to address there, you have to [Austen] Get a therapist, have someone to talk to about these issues, do some self-reflection [Austen] Maybe start doing meditation, maybe start doing some psychedelics to do deeper seeing into yourself [Austen] And it really is a process over time of finding these things and and and letting them go [Austen] And accepting whatever is in your life [Austen] So I think for me for a long time, I was very insecure about certain things [Austen] During the depression you start hating yourself and then you find things [Austen] That you just dislike about yourself [Austen] And one of the things that really helped was mushrooms, where you just kind of feel like this [Austen] It’s almost like if you’ve been meditating for five, ten years straight every single day for an hour a day [Austen] It gives you this insight where you’re like, I love myself. I accept myself. It doesn’t really matter what’s going on in my life [Austen] I accept it and now let me move forward and give giving myself the best life I can [Austen] So you have to take care of that part because if you if you have this toxic energy people will see it [Austen] You know? It’s like [Austen] Their bullshit detector [Austen] Their… And especially the more socially advanced people are, they can see through [Austen] Whatever you have like that [João] Yeah, the the self is always trying you through, right? [Austen] Yeah, so hot girls, cool guys. They can immediately see [Austen] What your issues are [Austen] Yeah, so [Austen] Handle, handle those internal issues and things that have been happening in your life [Austen] And then the other parts are like [Austen] For example, self-amusement. Making yourself have a good time so that you can share a good energy with other people [Austen] So self-amusement [Austen] Being at the cause so like actually [Austen] You know [Austen] Believing that you have a choice in your life to direct your life [Austen] And making other people kind of like follow your lead around you, being a leader [Austen] And yeah, there’s a bunch of others. We don’t need to go through all of them [Austen] But there’s that and then it’s meeting the girl, giving her good vibes, leading her around [Austen] Yeah and moving it forward towards sex, oh my god [João] It’s a Christian country, Austen, you should stop that conversation. You should stop [João] Yeah, that’s true [João] But there are some people that do things like game is only about [João] Manipulation, as you see like articles in magazines of people going on rants about it [João] They’re just teaching guys how to [João] Manipulate women, right? [João] Which is not true because it’s actually about you being more real and more… like you let your self shine [João] And you’re okay with it, right? [Austen] But then if you let your self shine through that’s manipulation as well [Austen] Yeah, and then people want to connect with you. Oh, no [João] Yeah, yeah [Austen] Yeah, it’s like with anything [Austen] For example, like there’s book covers over here [Austen] They’re trying to maximize the amount of people that see the book [Austen] So they’re manipulating [Austen] You to see the book and then the covers like designed in a way that makes you want to buy the book [Austen] So they’re manipulating you to buy the book [Austen] So you can either look at everything as manipulation [Austen] For example [Austen] Another one would be [Austen] Makeup, right? [João] Yeah, yeah [Austen] So makeup’s been used for, I think [Austen] What was it? Like, they’ve have found makeup in like [Austen] 20,000 BC or something like this [Austen] So women have been using makeup for a very long time [Austen] To make themselves seem more attractive than they actually are [Austen] Alright?
[João] Yeah [Austen] So, that’s manipulation [Austen] Especially when you see these girls these days, where it’s like makeup has almost become a science, it is a science [Austen] So a girl who’s like [Austen] Average, puts on this makeup, and then she looks like a stunner and then you get up close and you’re like [Austen] Oh fuck I’ve been deceived. So it’s even worse than anything that a guy could do really, right? [João] Yeah, I guess so
[Austen] Because a guy, it’s mostly with his vibe with the girl [Austen] So it’s like you can’t really manipulate the vibe, right? [Austen] But with makeup, it’s you can just manipulate and you’re like, oh, I’m just this goddess [Austen] You know?
[João] Yeah, I know, I know. Yeah, you’re totally right [Austen] And it’s not like [Austen] They’re worse or anything like that, but it’s just another example how everyone’s trying to maximize the good shit in their life, right? [Austen] Who’s like [Austen] “You know what? I could get a really emotionally stable beautiful partner” [Austen] “But no, I’ll just settle” [Austen] “For like a curmudgeon” [João] A criminal, let’s just date a criminal [Austen] Yeah, so I think in a way, I like this view, everything in that that sense has persuasion, right? [Austen] So it’s like, sales is persuasion. Book cover is persuasion, talking to people is persuasion [João] Which is because you’re actually the sum of the five people you hang out with the most so you’re [João] Influencing each other whether you want it or not, right? So, regardless [João] Yeah, I’m manipulation you right now [João] But you know, some guys don’t believe that game does work and they say that your success is only due to like [João] Looks and money [João] This debate has been going on for a long time, you know? [João] But there are still a lot of guys who say [João] “No, only looks and money if you don’t have the looks then you’re fucked right? [Austen] My favourite one for the looks thing, because there is a guy [Austen] Man, he would actually be down to probably be on a, I could do a video with him [Austen] So this guy, he’s paid to be a model. So he’s a professional model [Austen] In Toronto, Canada [Austen] This guy, whenever I look at him, I’m like [Austen] “You are like, you’re just” [Austen] “You’re perfect” [Austen] And like he literally looks like the most perfect human being possible [Austen] I was like, you know what dude if I if I was the hint bisexual I would be, I would be gaming you so hard [Austen] Anyway, so this guy just he’s like blond hair blue eyes [Austen] Six-foot-two, just like perfect build [Austen] Just this gorgeous human being, he [Austen] Where was I going with this? Oh, he has trouble meeting girls [Austen] And he, basically he has trouble closing. He has trouble like continuing the conversation [Austen] There are some, there’s some issues there [Austen] And whenever he brings this stuff up people are like [Austen] “Dude ,what are you talking about? You’re like 6 foot 2” [Austen] “You look like a god, what the fuck” [Austen] And he’s like, dude looks aren’t everything Looks aren’t everything. And when I heard him say that that really it really stuck out to me [Austen] Another little stories is [Austen] I with this girl. We’re at her apartment [Austen] For some reason we went onto the hallway [Austen] And she had another friend too [Austen] And this other guy was in there in this hallway, and he was like, he was a cool guy. So we bring him in [Austen] Just to like, join the party. And he tried to like game my girl in a way [Austen] But then I was in the the mood where I was just you know being awesome as you are when you’re when you’re gaming you’ve [Austen] You just, you enter the state where you’re just like the most fucking awesome person around [Austen] And he was way better looking than I was, he was like financially independent. He’s like, yeah, just don’t work anymore [Austen] You know? I invented shit and now I just like work off, I get like money coming in [Austen] And this guy, he tried to get with the girl that I was with but she liked me way more [Austen] Because of my energy so this guy had [Austen] Way more money. This guy had way better looks and he didn’t get results [Austen] And now I have, I don’t know if you guys can tell, I have a broken nose [Austen] Anyone that can talk to me for more than a second knows that my nose is literally broken [Austen] I had, I was playing ultimate frisbee someone broke it, so I’m a broken nose [Austen] I have a huge scar that some people when they see it, they’re like, oh my god. What the fuck? [Austen] So I have all these like physical issues. I’m kind of like asymmetrical and shit [Austen] And it doesn’t even matter, like I have had sex with girls who are when I’m looking at them [Austen] I’m like, you like this is the most perfect thing I’ve ever seen [Austen] It’s like when you’re having sex with her there’s like a symphony is going on [João] Angels are crying [Austen] Yeah, and so if I can do it you can too [Austen] Yeah, and I would also say just go out and you will see guys who are unattractive hooking up with hotter girls [Austen] There’s always gonna be someone who’s less attractive than you, who has less money. Who has way less resources who’s gonna make it work? [Austen] It’s not really your resources that matter. It’s your resourcefulness [João] Yeah, it’s because it’s all about the experience. That you give the girl, right? [João] It’s all about the experience and the emotions and range of emotions that you make her go through. Like like movies [João] It’s exactly the same thing, right? Like movies make you go through a range of emotions [João] And it doesn’t matter if the good at if the movie has a good image [João] It doesn’t matter if the movie is like very very well made if there is no emotion in it [João] Nobody will follow the story and just drop midway [Austen] Same thing with YouTube videos there could be amazing production quality [Austen] But if the content isn’t good, people don’t care [Austen] But then you could have a vertical video [Austen] From some shitty cellphone in Africa that captures an interesting event and people want to want to see it [João] Yeah, exactly, exactly [João] So it’s more or less the same thing [João] Yeah, similarity [João] What do you think are some common mistakes you see you guys doing? You’ve been teaching for how long now? [Austen] I’ve been teaching for [Austen] Coaching for three years [João] For three years, so you’ve seen a lot of shit happen [João] What do you think are the biggest struggles guys in general have? [Austen] Mmm, I’d say most of the struggle is internal, so I’d say probably 50 to 60 percent is [Austen] Just internal issues that guys are going through [Austen] That’s why what a lot of people are like yo, what book should I read to get good at game? [Austen] It’s like, if if I knew what their issues were I could recommend a better book because if I just say [Austen] Read “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion”, read “Awaken the Giant Within” read “Models” by Mark Manson [Austen] If I just say, read those books, that could be a partial solution [Austen] Right? [Austen] But unless they’re dealing with those internal issues, they are not going to get results [Austen] So yeah, for example [Austen] If a guy’s dealing with depression, you could I could recommend a book on happiness, or getting out of depression [Austen] Or being present to the moment [Austen] But people don’t see their own issues. So they’re called blind spots. So yeah, I don’t know. I don’t remember what the question was [João] No, it was common mistakes guys do and your were talking about recommending books [Austen] The common mistake, the most common mistakes guys make are the ones that they’re kind of unaware of [Austen] I’d say some common mistakes people make in terms of the technical side is [Austen] Opening too close. So they, the girl’s like here and they open like here. Yeah, and it scares the shit out of her [Austen] Another one is, or at least that I’ve seen in Portugal, New York is like guys being too [Austen] Physical and too grabby. So one day we went out and [Austen] There was two, there were two girls, you actually he’d bang this girl last night [Austen] So so we opened, we’re just chatting with them, vibing and later [Austen] The girl says, “you are the only guys who have talked to us tonight” [João] Yeah, true, true [Austen] And keep in mind [Austen] This is at, I think this is at 4 a.m. Yeah, so they’ve been out probably since 11:00 [Austen] So that’s five hours of guys who have just been grabbing them [João] Yeah, because they have been approached. Yeah. Yeah [Austen] And then meanwhile we come up bring good energy just chatting with them making them laugh [Austen] Making sure they have a good time [Austen] And yeah, so that’s another one which would be actually have a conversation with a girl [Austen] Actually give out good energy. Don’t just [Austen] It’s like if someone [Austen]The equivalent approach of just grabbing girls and like like, I don’t even know what the fuck they’re thinking but [Austen] It’d be like a guy who’s trying to sell you a car [Austen] He comes up to you on the streets like you buy a car. He’s like takes out his keen he’s like, oh [Austen] Yeah, get it get the car. Like, how is he going to sell the car? [Austen] So that’s another one, let’s see [Austen] A lot of times guys have trouble leading And again, a lot of this goes back to internal stuff. If you believe that you are a piece of shit [Austen] And that what you’re leading the girl to is horrible and you think of women hate sex and you’re like [Austen] “Man, I just kind of trick her into having sex because you know women just they don’t like it” [João] Yeah, yeah, yeah [Austen] If you believe that, then you are always going to like [Austen] Always, always going to have trouble leading the girl, because you don’t think you’re offering her something that’s good [Austen] Right? But if you think, you know what? I’m fucking awesome, this girl is getting so much value [Austen] Just out of being around me. Every step of the way that she’s gonna go home with me. So let’s say bring her to a Portuguese [Austen] You know treat place, what the fuck is that called? [João] A Toscana
[Austen] A Toscana [Austen] Everything in Portuguese is said very fast, every time we pronounce it they’re like no [João] But ladies love it [Austen] So every step of the way the girls gonna have fun with me. She’s gonna get more value out of it [Austen] She’s gonna enjoy him more and [Austen] And even when I bring her home to have sex [Austen] Men, I have an entire list of [Austen] Stuff that women get out of me just from sex, right? [Austen] So it’s like if you have an entire list [Austen] You’re like, oh she gets to feel masculine presence, I meditate with her before sex, so she’s present to the moment [Austen] Maybe that changes her life because, she learns how to meditate and [Austen] And influences our life [Austen] Drastically and then she teaches other people how to do it and everyone’s getting more and more presence [Austen] Kind of raises the consciousness of Earth. I mean planet earth. Oh, yeah [João] Eckart Tolle [Austen] And [Austen] So she’s present. She’s letting go of anxiety. I give her a massage [Austen] Maybe she’s like loosening up, we have epic sex [Austen] She feels like dominated, she gets to, she to live out these fantasies that no other guys gets to do with her [Austen] Maybe she gets a squirt. She gets an orgasm [Austen] You know, there’s an unlimited number of things that she can get out of sex with me and it’s all positive [Austen] So, why would I withhold that from her? In fact, I would be an asshole if I didn’t give her that, right? [Austen] If I didn’t lead her to sex in a way that she was comfortable with [Austen] Then I’m not giving her the best that I can give her, right? [João] Yeah, true and the really interesting thing about game [João] Is that like you start like fixing your internal issues with girls, right? [João] And like, the way we come at girls is the way you come at life. They’re both really related and intertwined [João] So when you start [João] Improving one thing in your life, then the other begins to improve or you’re like prone to improving [João] So just not about game or our girls, right? It’s about building a better life [Austen] I’d say it’s somewhat related, but not there’s not a hundred percent cool [João] Not a hundred percent but…
[Austen] Because I I’ve had students who are business people [Austen] So there’s one guy for example, he had four iPhones [Austen] So he like for iPhone 7 pluses or whatever [Austen] And just huge phones and [Austen] One for every business he has, so he sorts through the phone by the color of the of the of the metal [Austen] And he’s like, “oh, I got an issue in this business”. And this guy is so [Austen] Business minded, he’s almost like a computer [Austen] He’s like, oh time to execute, business mode. Okay. Am I right? Okay, Austen, I am ready for game now, so [Austen] This guy, crushing in a business, right? He has four successful businesses. He’s a multi-millionaire [Austen] But that same guy [Austen] He’s having trouble even connecting with another human being because he can’t be present long enough [Austen] I think the longest conversation [Austen] Or longest set he had on bootcamp, where he was just talking business with a girl and she was she was into business too [Austen] So and like, so I’d say.. I won’t say there’s 100% correlation [Austen] Also if you’re working too hard [Austen] Your stress levels go way up
[João] Yeah, that’s true, that’s true [Austen] And if your stress levels go up, you can’t really share a good vibe with with people [Austen] But yeah, yeah and but you’re right, there is a certain similarity there where it’s like [Austen] If you… I think a lot of it comes from the fact that, realizing that you’re going to die, right? [Austen] You’re like, okay, I’m going to die [Austen] And I’ve got probably 10 to 20 years left of this dating phase of my life [Austen] So if I don’t get this handled now [Austen] It’s probably not gonna happen. And you look at other people around you who just kind of like let themselves go [Austen] For example, I had a bootcamp student, he was four hundred and seventy pounds [Austen] Depressed. Every day he would just come home from work [Austen] Get something from fast-food, go home, play video games, watch porn [Austen] That was his life [Austen] And full self-hatred. So it’s like, that’s where I don’t want to be right? [Austen] Luckily for that guy. That guy is actually doing well now. He’s losing weight, he started his own [Austen] His own business. He’s been traveling. He’s been like expanding, he’s been gaming [Austen] But you kind of [Austen] I’m forgetting the tangent I was going on [João] We were talking about the correlation between
[Austen] That’s the problem of doing this early in the morning [João] Correlation between gaming business [Austen] Oh, realizing that you’re going to die
[João] Yeah, exactly! realizing that you’re going to die [Austen] Yeah, so if you realize you’re gonna die and you’re like fuck, I want to build a physique [Austen] I want to build a nice physique [Austen] If you come with your physique the same way that you come at game, you know [Austen] It comes from that same fact that I’m gonna die. Let’s take some fucking action [Austen] Let’s pursue what I want to, what what we want to accomplish [João] Yeah, but all comes from the fight we’re gonna die because if we didn’t, we just wouldn’t have any [João] Motivation to do anything, like we could do it any day we wanted right? Cause we could just live forever [Austen] Dude, I remember this meme, where it’s like [Austen] With this drum and this little Indian kid was like [Austen] He was like, “first I bang the drum then I bang your mom” [Austen] Alright, what’s our next topic? Joel [João] I don’t know why I’m speaking spanish, I was speaking spanish the whole night yesterday [João] And now every time you do a little bit of spanish, my mind just goes right back to it [João] And it’s crazy. The same happens to me with english [Austen] Que quieres comer? [João] No te voy a dicer [Austen] Yo tengo… [João] Okay, so let’s just move on [João] You just talk a lot about meditation, right? So because he had a usually impact in your life and now there’s like a meditation [João] Trends going around right? [Austen] It’s trendy [João] It’s true. Very trendy
[Austen] Let’s get in a side bowl and meditate [João] You meditate with girls after sex, right? So how does meditation help you [João] With game and with life in general [Austen] Yeah, so one of the biggest things that holds guys back like I said, is this internal stuff [Austen] So when you meditate, you get third party perspective over your issues, and you can see them better, right? [Austen] So it’s like you’re almost like in your body and you see yourself. You’re like man [Austen] I really should fix X, right? And meditation helps you do that. Another thing is [Austen] Learning game requires some willpower, right? It does require some willpower. Meditation builds that willpower [Austen] I’d say another one is guys who have weak frames [Austen] So, we actually, I did a seminar here [Austen] And I said before we did this connection exercise where you you look at another person’s eyes [Austen] I said, you can tell the guys who are good in game because they will be able to do this and connect deeply with someone without [Austen] Any giggling, without looking away and the guys who struggle with connection, who also struggle with game [Austen] Will have trouble with this exercise [Austen] And so, that being said, it kind of puts you into [Austen] That mode where you can connect with someone, you can be present with someone, it builds that strong frame, that groundedness and [Austen] Guys that don’t have this have a very weak frame and girls can just poke through [Austen] So for example if a guy, his frame is like, I’m the shit girls should be lucky they’re with me, you know? [Austen] If he has a very weak frames, he’s like I’m the shit and the girl is like, no you’re not! But, but, but I am [Austen] That’s an example of his frame breaking [Austen] And if you have meditation you have a very strong frame [Austen] It also gives you more free emotions like you can think of it as almost like you’re absorbing good emotions from your surroundings [Austen] It helps you actually increase your creativity
[João] Yeah, that’s true [Austen] Which, which is helpful in game too so you can say: [Austen] “Latin Lover” [Austen] Imagine that imagine that Latin Lover I’ll give you I’ll give you a minute to imagine that [Austen] So it allows you to be more free associative [Austen] Actually wrote up a whole fucking thing on this man, but more free associative [Austen] Also present, right? [Austen] So a lot of, I’d say man this probably covers like 20%, 30% of the problems in game, maybe more [Austen] So guys, they’re thinking, oh fuck I… [Austen] Portuguese girls don’t like me because in the past they’ve been like bitchy or whatever [Austen] And then in the future [Austen] These girls probably aren’t gonna fuck me. They’re not gonna date me [Austen] They’re probably not even gonna talk to me, right? So you’re not in the present. You’re in the past, or in the future [Austen] So meditation puts you in the present ,where you can like, be your best self [Austen] People who are present give their best selves, but people who are thinking in the future thinking of the past [Austen] They can’t really because they’re split between different periods [Austen] And also, that being said they place judgments so something’s either good or it’s bad, as opposed to just it is [João] Yeah, meditation turns off that judging mind, right? [Austen] Yeah, so the example would be a guy goes up [Austen] Girl says fuck off. I have a boyfriend. His name’s Tyrone. He’s gonna kill you [Austen] So in his mind, he’s like fuck, I’ve got rejected [Austen] The whole nights gonna be bad now. Dammit, it’s because of a piece of shit, right? [Austen] So he places judgment and it’s a downward spiral of negativity [Austen] Or he thinks, oh this girl liked me. So it’s good, right? Yeah as opposed to just like oh [Austen] Some girls like me, some don’t it is what it is. And it keeps you more stable and level. So meditation keeps you present [Austen] So you’re not thinking you’re not in your head. You’re not worried [Austen] It keeps you present, where you can give your best self and also you’re not placing judgments [Austen] You’re just accepting whatever happens and then taking right action to [Austen] Whatever point you desire [João] Yeah, and being present is awesome, because when you’re really present [João] It’s like you draw people to presence and people feel better because of it [João] And then they just feel better around you right? Because you just bring them to a better place [João] Another thing I was gonna say about you’re talking about the [João] The boyfriend, I forgot damn it [João] I had a really good follow up [João] Okay, it doesn’t matter if I remember I remember [Austen] Do you have one any cool stories you could share like for guys to see what’s what’s possible and [Austen] Oh, I remember, I remember what I was gonna say. Yeah you were telling about the [João] Shit, I forgot again! [João] That’s what happens you don’t sleep, I slept half an hour last night [Austen] It was just a little bit, until the alarm clock to take the girl home and [João] And that’s what happens when you don’t sleep. I just forgot it [Austen] Wow, what a player [João] Damn it
[Austen] Okay. I’ll just take over. I’ll just start ranting [João] You go, you go
[Austen] All right, hum [Austen] I don’t know, once topics are brought up I I just I feel like it ran forever on them. Yeah, I know [João] I know, you rant good man, but you’re an introverted. So you just develop that that ability to do that, right? [Austen] Yes, sir, yeah, oh yeah so I could talk about that, uh [Austen] So people will often say like do 30-day challenges, do 60-day challenges B[Austen] ut if you are an introvert [Austen] That is probably the worst thing to do, because you will burn out, right? So if you’re an introvert like myself [Austen] I feel like I’m 80% introverted like these guys
[João] Very specific, very specific [João] Eighty one percent sir
[Austen] I took the test. Whatever, I’m mostly introverted [Austen] So like after a certain point, it’s like I’m also hyper sensitive person. So like noise light [Austen] Stuff like that [Austen] Stimulates me to a higher degree. So I feel like [Austen] It’s very intense [Austen] it’s good for assert for certain things, right? Because you can like you can feel from [Austen] Less intense stimuli. Where some people feel like they have to go to an EDM festival [Austen] With MDMA, shooting up heroin to feel anything [Austen] There’s like the stripper who like just can’t feel anything anymore, so you gave to verbally abuse her [Austen] So I’m introverted [Austen] So for me if I were to do a 60 day challenge starting out, that would be horrible because [Austen] 23 days in I’d be like, dude, I just I can’t anymore [Austen] I just, just kill me now [Austen] Whereas someone like yourself or my friend Kevin [Austen] You could do 30 day challeng, you to 60 day challenge. No problem [Austen] You know? it’s not really an issue you’re like, oh I’m really enjoying talking to all these people, that’s so much fun [João] I don’t lose energy when I talk to people. Yeah, I feel recharged. I feel you know, and [Austen] Yeah, so I would say if you’re an introvert do not do that [Austen] When I was learning, I would pretty much go out four to five times a week [Austen] But some would be shorter like people here like go on every day and they’re like, oh for seven hours every day. Damn [Austen] That’s a lot of time investment. Most people who do seven days a week do like [Austen] Like one approach per day and then on the weekend they maybe go out once, twice. Three times maybe [Austen] Well, I basically did four to five days a week while I was learning and that worked really well for me [Austen] So I just want to throw that out there. You don’t need to do 30 day challenge or 60 day challenge [João] But it is important to approach, right? And just do the things because if you just keep [João] Stay at home reading theory and watching YouTube videos, you know, although they’re very good, yours are very good [João] Watching you do videos, you just won’t get anywhere with it [João] Actually, I think you’ll get.. I think if you read too much and watch too much videos [João] You just get stifled with so much information, you just don’t know what to do, right? [Austen] So one question I ask all my students is when did you find out about game? And when did you start applying it? [Austen] Because then you can kind of sense how much over theorizing they’ve done [Austen] If they’re like I found out about game in [Austen] 1998 and I started applying in 2017 in May. It’s like [Austen] I think you can already tell this guy’s gonna have some issues [Austen] And the fear is essentially what’s holding them back. So I’d say [Austen] If I could go back in it, by the way, I think I did was it [Austen] It’s like, I think I did three or four months of like learning before I even did an approach [Austen] I did some, I knew some girls. So I would like try to practice certain things on them [João] I did that too, yeah [Austen] But and I was like, holy shit [Austen] This is actually working [Austen] Dude, when you found out about game and then you start using it, it’s like you’ve discovered
[João] A whole new world, man [Austen] It’s like why the fuck has no one told me about this? Dude when I was [Austen] Like there’s certain things that I’m like why have has no one told me about this, but I think people are just unaware [Austen] If your dad was like listen, dude, this is how to pimp it [Austen] He took you out, he was like [Austen] Hey, come here yo, what’s up? Yo, we were just kicking it over here [Austen] And then I saw you, thought I’d play you a little guitar song. He’s playing guitar. And be like sets it down [Austen] He’s like yo suit so meet my son [Austen] And then she’s like, I have a hot friend for your son. Brings over her hot friend, you’re like seven it’s cool [Austen] Then then you’d learn a game right? But that’s not how it works unfortunately [Austen] And then a lot of guys who deal with trauma, or are more introverted or are computer developers or whatever [Austen] Then those people are not gonna get that information, right? Yeah until they they go [Austen] Siri how to pick up the bitches [Austen] So they won’t get it until then. Yeah, that’d be funny if I just [Austen] Siri how do I pick up the bitches? [Siri] Well *inaudible* [João] Maybe it’s not Siri. It’s another app. But yeah [Austen] Yeah, it would be good if someone taught us these things another thing was [Austen] Man, I don’t know if I should say this. Whatever [Austen] The fact that religion is made up. I felt like, growing up I was like and then I found out I was like, what the fuck? [Austen] It’s like why the fuck have I been lied to? It’s like like your whole life you’re being lied to by your parents [Austen] It’s like Santa Claus, just just believe in Santa Claus, the tooth fairy’s gonna bring you your little tooth [João] Yeah, that’s true, Freud has like a really
[Austen] Pray to Jesus [João] Freud has like a really extensive thing about like those kinds of lies. Like it’s the you come with a… [João] Seagull? I don’t know, what’s the bird that brings babies?
[Austen] Stork [João] So you come up with.. Yeah, all those lies [João] And then when kids find out just like disappointed because their parents just lied to them and for no [João] Reason like just protecting their kid [Austen] Just just go to college. Get a good job
[João] Yeah, I know but [João] Dude that really funny that you said that because [João] There’s an interview with Joe Rogan [Austen] Wait, one sec. I want to say that most people are just retarded as fuck [Austen] Okay, so don’t take your information from those people. Even people in your family like they could be telling you things that could just destroy your life [João] I know I had really bad advice when I was a kid. I was some older friends [João] I would ask advice for girls, right? And the advice would just backfire because it was really really bad advice [Austen] So basically research, finds what actually works [Austen] Find people who know what they’re talking about. And then from there you can start implementing. But like if you just implement on shitty advice [Austen] Like where are you going? Yeah, exactly, exactly. It’s like to get a good career [Austen] You need to go to a college. You need to go to Community College and then you get your [Austen] You get your sociology degree, and then you graduate and [Austen] Dot dot, I don’t know [Austen] And then it and then also [Austen] Yeah, the thing with the ceiling being pushed up and I have to get like a master’s degree to stand out pretty soon [Austen] There’s gonna be like, you have to have a PhD to get a job at a gas station. [João] Yeah, exactly. It’s gonna, it’s gonna blow, the bubble is gonna blow somewhere. It’s true [Austen] And no one says like, just find a skill set that people want to pay you for and [Austen] Develop that over time and build an audience that wants to pay you [João] True and nowadays with the internet just so much easier to do everything. You could just promote yourself for free basically on YouTube [Austen] Yeah, there’s downsides to that. It’s harder to stand out [João] Exactly so many people doing it [João] Yes, we act like you have really good content and work on it [Austen] What’s up guys? What up invaders? [João] Do you have some stories you want to share to stimulate our audience? [Austen] I usually hate stories because I feel like there’s, I’d say [Austen] 90% of the people in the industry are full of shit and they’re stupid and they they have no decent advice at all [Austen] But there’s something everyone could get out of them. No, I really don’t believe that [Austen] I think that there’s a lot of people in the pickup industry who just talk [Austen] Their like [Austen] Let me do another talking to the camera video. Hey guys, I’m gonna regurgitate some stuff I heard [Austen] Whereas people who actually get results [Austen] Put those results out there and people are like, oh, wow, so he can actually do what he’s talking about [João] Oh, yeah, that’s true [Austen] So I will tell one story after this quick commercial break where I have to pee Six and a half hours later [João] Okay, let’s go into it. Good story! I hope it’s not a pee story [João] Can you close the door? [Austen] Yeah, one thing I wanted to say with that is sometimes people think of success with women [Austen] As kind of linear, it’s like, oh [Austen] So I start here and then I just I can increasingly just get better slowly, right? [Austen] But the reality is, it’s kind of like exponential in a way in terms of your results [Austen] Because once you’re past a certain level, where it’s like girls recognize that you’re fucking of value [Austen] You’re awesome. You have high social status in their eyes [Austen] You give them an amazing experience. They’re having so much fun around you [Austen] You can get some serious serious results [Austen] So and the same thing with money, right? It’s kind of exponential [Austen] So and girls can sense this quicker and quicker and quicker from you, so I actually told a story at the [Austen] At the seminar the other day about a thirty second pool outside of a club [Austen] So I meet the girl, hey, what’s up with the fucking? Let’s go to the after-party. It’s cool. What’s up? What’s your name? [Austen] Whatever [Austen] Like machine-gun her and then just [Austen] There’s like a taxi that pulls up and I’m like, taxi, let’s go boom in the cab [Austen] Bounced to to my place, so thirty seconds, but [Austen] Why is it thirty seconds is because she’s a slut? [Austen] No, it’s because she can see quickly that I have value to bring, right? [Austen] She’s like every second I’ve been with this guy [Austen] I have felt nothing but amazing and I can sense that [Austen] He is just offering abundant energy and and he’s of value. He’s high social status. What he’s bringing me to is cool. Let’s go [João] I could hear that here I [Austen] Don’t know if I explained the exponential thing properly [Austen] But basically to get to the top, basically. *Illuminati* [Austen] To get to the top that there are lessons that you go through, to get to the top not everything that [Austen] Will work for you will be found in one place, right? [Austen] Except on my channel [Austen] Everything can be found in there
[João] Link in the description [Austen] What was I gonna say? [Austen] Yeah, so basically to get to the top there will be [Austen] Things that you learn along the way, there will be [Austen] Plateaus that you go through and that you kind of have to find a solution for [Austen] So a lot of the plateaus that I got into were [Austen] Because I didn’t have certain habits in place, so you can only get to a certain level in game without doing some kind [Austen] Mindfulness and meditation right? Because if you’re projecting the stressed anxious inner self [Austen] Overly thinking self, not many girls are gonna be attracted to that. And then [Austen] You can only get to a certain level without lifting, right? Because if you’re lifting, working out, you have higher testosterone [Austen] You look more attractive, like you were saying the other day girls just like feel you? [João] Just feel and touch you yeah [Austen] What’s gonna help you get laid more? [Austen] Looking unattractive or having like a large ripped physique that girls are just like when they see you. They’re like, oh my god [Austen] My pussy’s getting wet. If her pussy’s getting wet looking at you, it’s gonna be a lot easier [João] Yeah, of course, you know when I was back in shape [João] Sometimes was much much easier because you being in shape is it’s [Austen] I agree. We have the opposite issues [Austen] He gets, you’re naturally big. Yeah, I’d have to like what like trim down a little bit and just go muscle? [Austen] But for me, I look like Auschwitz survivor. So I have to like put in a lot of effort [João] I would rather be like you. But when I was a kid I was really really fat [João] I was really fat, you have no idea. I’m not gonna post a picture but, you know [João] So I started working out at some point. And worked out for like six, seven years [João] And then I stopped for an injury, but [João] My metabolism changed a lot. So in these two and a half years I’ve been injured [João] I feel I’ve been eating a lot and not very healthy, because that was before but you know [João] And I would think that I would be much much fatter. If it was before I started working out [João] I would be really fucking fat. Just for the things I ate and I ate a lot and I’m not, like I’m almost [João] thin you know? But I ate so much, didn’t exercise, like didn’t sleep a lot because I always going out [João] So training changes your metabolism for life. It’s not just a thing like now I have a good physique [João] You know? When you be like 40 and 50 and 60, your friends will all be fat [João] You know? With their chins falling and you’ll be like, mr. Olympia [Austen] And another thing I want to say a new on the nutrition side is [Austen] Sometimes people think of nutrition only in terms of body composition, right? [Austen] You can eat garbage and have a good body composition
[João] Yeah, but not health [Austen] Yeah, but your nutrition affects everything [Austen] So it’s like, some people follow the nutrition experts and they get body composition. That’s that’s that’s their goal [Austen] Their like, I just follow my macros and I get my body composition looking well, and then it’s like on the other side [Austen] It’s like sexual health. Do you want to get your dick hard? [Austen] Does your do you want your brain to function? Do you want to live long? [Austen] Do you want your skin to look good? Do you want to feel good? [Austen] Do you want have good energy [Austen] So when you go into a venue or a club you can project good energy to a girl? [Austen] Do you want to eat foods that promote presence like? [Austen] There’s like 50 things on this side and then there’s one thing on this side [Austen] And their like, the strong guy told me to do that. So yeah. Yes. I just eat poop and I [Austen] And I fit my macros so I do it, yeah [Austen] It’s like so stupid [Austen] So focus on eating nutrient dense foods, sure make it figure macros good but [Austen] Why don’t you eat foods that help you like, your health [João] And it’s really cool because you don’t even need to count calories to do that [João] If you just start eating nutrient dense foods you, you know? And you just use your body, the body’s body signs to ajust the [Austen] Yeah, so those are the two main ways: if it fits your macros, eat poop or [Austen] Use your body’s built-in mechanisms for thirst and hunger to regulate that [João] Cause your body knows right?
[Austen] Yeah, your body knows [Austen] I love how seductive this sounds. So, if you’re thinking about coming [Austen] You can come whenever you want [Austen] This is great
[João] Yeah, I know [João] I didn’t build this though, so [João] Tiago is the builder. Tiago the builder [João] So yeah, the links will be in the description, if you guys want to follow Austen just follow [João] Just follow him on facebook, instagram, snapchat, the links will how up here, here and here [João] YouTube [João] No, they’re probably gonna appear in the link in the description because now youtube has some weird rules [Austen] If you guys want to follow João, I know his address [Austen] Shoot me a message. It’s a very easy to follow him because he just talks all the time [João] And loud too, so.. ok [João] Well very, thank you very much for being here [Austen] Thank you very much for being here. In your house. Thank you for being in your house [João] I hope you come again one day [Austen] All right. Thanks for listening guys. If you made it this far you are a Titan [Austen] So be sure to smash that like button, smash that subscribe button, give your boy João here some love and [Austen] Yeah [Austen] Until next time I’ll see you in the next episode in the next video, subscribe [Austen] Retweet, reblog, share with your mom, share with your dad. Send it to your dog. Maybe your dog knows this program [Austen] Maybe your doctor could get a lot of value out of this [João] Dogs can probably get laid more than men [Austen] Yeah, make sure your dogs not neutered though, because that would impact the ability to act [Austen] Actually act on this information

35 thoughts on “From Depression to Dating Coach | Austen Summers Podcast #1

  1. have you ever thought about addressing the situation between you and Vadim from HS? watch your stuff regularly, but i've never seen you actually commenting on this. regards from Europe man, thank you for the podcast

  2. I love what Austin talks about looks, i just cleared up my acne, and was still hooking up with hot girls because of my game, and energy, remember…

    Inner pimps beats outter studs!

  3. Come on Austin, be real. You are tall and white, imagine putting a 5ft6 Asian guy in the same scenario, he can have all the energy he wants, but he won't pull hot girls. The best thing for someone (me) like that to do is get ripped and earn some real money and become financially free. Because in reality, you think hot girls will go out with a guy that looks like aziz ansari?

  4. The most valuable part of the video is Austen talking about his struggle with depression and how he overcame it. Inner game is 95% of the whole game. That's why many old PUA now become self-development gurus. It would be great if Austen can have another video talking more deeply about his experience and recommendations to people with similar issues.

  5. Damn dogg, you stepping up yo game! I found a podcast a while back coz i wanted more of your content! Literally stalked your content, And you spoke about your journey. I am so ready to listen to your podcasts. Love your stuff!

  6. So i went to this party which the theme was white, and it was formal but we thought it wasnt, and i wore a white robe and bucket hat. Got there, looked like a complete idiot but just lived it and focused on having fun and being in the moment, and one of the hottest girls came to me before the end of the night, and gave me her number and kissed me. Thats the type of weird shit that happens when you let go. Now shes taking like days at a time to reply to my messages after the first date that went really well? dafaq is happening. Shes legit a 8 or 9 tho so im starting to feel like it was too good to be true xD

  7. I have to be honest with the looks thing; looks has gotten me the foot in the door many times but it ends there 90% of the time bcuz of my game👎🏼

  8. Dude im hypersensitive too!! You feel more but you feel more good and bad. Like loud noises irritate me so bad more than anyone else like cars honking or loud slamming at the gym lmaooo aswell as heartbreaks feel worse but when im happy im super happy. Im surprised though because you seem very mellow all the time is that like something you do on purpose to counter your hypersensitivity and/or is it also from your meditation. And im introverted as well but have developed my social skills so much to where people think im extroverted but after being around a lot of people for a little while like an hour or so I haveee to get away from everyone to recharge! You're AWESOME!!! 🙂

  9. What books/resources would you recommend for someone who is introverted and has a hard time striking and holding conversations. Just striking random conversations with random ppl and trying to hold them as long as possible, trying to build those skills up?

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