Curious about Wheelchairs? ASK ME ANYTHING!

Curious about Wheelchairs? ASK ME ANYTHING!

I’m not gonna lie this is probably the
weirdest thing I’ve ever done in my life we’re out here in world-famous Venice
Beach in sunny Los Angeles California finally sunny we’re gonna let complete
strangers ask me anything I don’t know why I’m nervous about this what’s going on dude. have any questions? now i’m thinking of a question. nothing’s off the table I haven’t nine years ago today I fell 50
feet and it broke my spine and paralyzed me yeah 50 ft pretty crazy. i was out for a jog, i was running. where I’m from they have underground parking decks and I
fell into the underground parking deck I was pretty much like blacked out I mean I was in and out of consciousness it was pretty wild that’s for sure yeah yeah I definitely remember being able to that that feeling it’s
it’s like a faint memory it’s like a dream I’ve definitely gotten skilled enough in
the chair that it’s an extension of me now
like I’m really used to it like I’m fully independent I can cook I can clean
I can drive like this is my new normal right in the same way that like your
legs are your normal you don’t think about it you just do it it’s kind of the
same thing with me I don’t really like think about it too much I just do it
whatever what were you gonna ask nothing off limits man nothing off limits so yes I know
right so I do have like I do have this like a human desire to like go back
right but the truth is my quality of life now I think is better than what it
would have been if I hadn’t got hurt because this like forced me to grow up
it forced me to like look in myself it like forced me to become a better person
it like forced me to to become something I couldn’t have been before and it’s
given me a lot a lot of opportunities like a really like interesting and
unique opportunities that have never gotten before yeah it sucks like yeah I
wish I could like walk again but also like I wouldn’t give up this life for
anything yeah yes and no right so I don’t mind help as long as I ask for it yeah right
so a lot a lot of the times like for me personally I have my own methods like
something as simple as opening up a door right
like if I’m already opening it and someone like runs in front of me to like
open it for me that’s like okay I mean I was already doing it but if like my
hands are full when I got stuff on my lap and I’m like heading towards the
door and someone sees me and then they grab it no big deal or if I’m literally
like with someone I’m like hey excuse me like could you grab the door for me it’s
no big deal but it’s mainly the unsolicited stuff yeah
it’s mainly unsolicited help that usually like gets in the way of my flow
and ends up making more work for me in the end no no we’re just here like
answering questions no that’s okay I
really appreciate it thank you I promise I promise to find someone else they
need some more than I do I think a lot of times people in general have a lot of
questions but there’s no opportunity for them to ask it I think even for myself
like if I would see someone else who has got a disability that’s different than
mine I might also be curious but also not know when’s appropriate to ask you
know so this is kind of one of those opportunities that I don’t want to
insult you no it’s not insulting you know it lost
everything back in Miami I’m from Perico okay so I watched this
place on the hurricane Maria okay so that experience I can share with you is after
you have to truly appreciate what you have now yeah that’s definitely a
perspective it’s like not only appreciate what you have but anything
you have can always go away immediately you never you never know when that that
moment can happen that completely changes everything so one thing I’m just
curious about your situation initially it’s really hard
because I think a lot of girls don’t see you as like a like a sexual being they
just see you as just as a guy in a chair I know like for now like I’ve got a
gorgeous girlfriend she’s absolutely beautiful in for you and she met me in a
place I was at the gym and I was working out so she didn’t see me as someone who
was like weak or like unable or like sick she saw me as like someone who was strong it was independent it was
fierce and and but I was I was single for a very long time because I think
there’s a lot of unknowns as well I think I think a lot of girls don’t they
don’t know when they’re afraid of what they don’t know and and they might also
believe that there’s certain limits that they have if they decided to be with you
they’ll say oh okay well what if I want to go hiking what if I want to go on a
vacation what if I want to go climb Machu Picchu what if I want to go ride
four wheelers yeah a little bit I like
my comfortable space and I like my routine but I also like to push the
boundaries and the limits of of life and and what I like to nice talking to you too hello how are you so anything anything
nothing nothing’s off topic it’s quite the opposite
you just have to find how to do things your way so there’s plenty of things
that that I do that I did before that I do now like for example I work out of a
gym I go to concerts I go grocery shopping on my own I Drive on my own now
there’s nothing that’s really off-limits it’s just a matter of being different
because what happens is your life completely changes in a matter of an
instant my legs were how I lived my life I was I
ran I worked out I hung out with friends I went hiking I went backpacking you
know even the job I did was really physical labor
so literally my whole future was taken away from me at that time and I thought
to myself oh the only way I can get my future back is if I get my legs back
that didn’t happen so I decided to say you know okay I’m gonna accept my reality
and I’m gonna do the best that I can and be the best that I can in in the chair
the second part of your question I’d say something a friend can do is just be
there like hang out with them invite them to do stuff definitely acknowledge
this the needs the special interests and needs and challenges and difficulties
that they have but don’t stop to stop you from inviting them out to do stuff of course it’s pleasure
see ya this James Bay music has got me just
f***in’ lit right now y’all come on come on guys ask me anything. hi how are you yes I’m very well okay
the coolest thing would probably be a lot of the little extra hitting perks
that a lot of people don’t know about good seats at concerts good parking no
lines usually skip lines little things like that
I’d say the more the most difficult mmm that’s hard because there’s a lot of
difficulties yeah I think there’s there’s typical daily challenges and
daily struggles but I think the biggest issue is like preconceived notions of
the general public like strangers like and the reason I said it as by close
friends and family treat me a certain way that’s that’s very specific they I’m
a friend like I’m a buddy the public I say that in air quotes by the way they
look the way they point the way they behave the way they act you can tell
that they’re very misinformed they’re uneducated on what it’s like to live
with a disability or what a person in a wheelchair is or does and I think that
might have to do with just typical like lack of information or representation or
just simply what they’ve seen in movies and TV is what they automatically think
is what’s what’s right I think that might be a difficult challenging thing
also health care is a b***h that’s for sure
it’s just way expensive and just like a complete pain but that’s something that
it’s like that’s more of a secondary issue that I think a lot of people deal
with we just didn’t tend to deal with it a little bit more I know when I first
got hurt I I was so lost and confused and I like didn’t know what to do how to
live what people thought and a big downfall of me for a real long time was
projecting what I would have thought about a person
in a wheelchair onto everybody else which initially would have been like
kind of negative and kind of rude and cuz I had stereotypes in my head you
know dirty stinky messy people have to take care of them you know they’re sick
all the time and they’re old you know I had these like perceived notions so
initially for and for a long time whenever people would look at me
I would think automatically bad thoughts I would think oh they are thinking I’m
worthless or I’m a piece of s**t or I’m broken or I’m ugly or whatever that’s
that’s automatically what I would assume and and it took a really long time for
me to realize that I was putting that on people yeah and not people putting that
on me I can definitely tell when I’m I’m someone’s very first interaction with a
person in a wheelchair it’s obvious it’s it’s a deer in the headlights look it’s
it’s a frozen body language it’s even if I’m just walking like if I’m just
rolling up but I’m talking to someone here my language did you hear me slip
even if I’m just walking along or I’m talking to someone and or I’ll just say
hi or a smile or or someone will see me you know at the grocery store like
pushing my cart and grabbing things like there’s just this like zoo animal type
look and you know like or if I’m walking their direction they’ll freeze and not
know where to go and it’s like oh you’ve probably never in your whole life
interacted with someone in a chair before you know we’re pretty rare and I
think even more rare because a lot of us tend to get like depression and chronic
pain and and stay inside a lot we don’t want to be seen yeah yeah it’s it’s
terrible but through a lot of meditation to exercise to gratitude to being happy
to being distracted to working out like there’s just like a lot of things you
can do other than just like popping a pill for it and that seems to work out
and the only reason I know that is because I definitely went down a path
where drugs were my option and they completely destroyed me like they put me
in a really terrible awful place and I managed to like dig myself out of that
which was challenging and difficult I think even more challenging and
difficult than dealing with the disability originally yeah so so now I
don’t have the option anymore so I’ve got to find other ways to manage to
overcome any challenges and especially the inner life hardest regardless if you
have a disability or not most most challenges come from within in my
situation it’s like I didn’t know how strong I was until being strong was my
only option yeah you know I had a lot of a lot of things built up and it ended
badly it ended with me being institutionalized in a psychiatric ward
due to a combination of depression addiction and attempted suicide and it
just like put me in a place where I finally it was like forced to like detox
and then not once I got like once I stepped back from myself a little bit I
was like wow like I can’t live like this anymore
what I’m experiencing now is terrible but what’s even more terrible is what I
was doing and I’ve just like been going ever since awesome very cool
Richard yeah I appreciate your kind words thank you so much those nice
talking to you that was amazing dude she totally
she was just like what question should I ask him should I ask him to call me I
thought that was absolutely hilarious she was really sweet though I did yeah
so the type of injury that I have is is called an incomplete injury so what that
means is the spinal cord itself wasn’t severed it was damaged so if you look
closely you see I got a big leg over here and I got a little leg over here so
the nerves some of them don’t work and some of them do luckily I’ve got the
right pieces of the puzzle together where I can stand and walk a little bit
with some crutches okay but it’s not great I’m way faster and more effective
and better in a chair than I am out of the chair so it happened nine years ago today actually so therapy is way in the past
however I do exercise regularly I work out I eat like a bodybuilder I train
like a bodybuilder I just only do the upper half yeah I’m the only guy who’s
allowed to skip leg day in the gym but no one gives me any any troubles yeah
believe it or not I’ve got a beautiful wonderful amazing girlfriend I was
single for a very long time but I she wasn’t my first girlfriend that I’ve had
in a wheelchair I’ve definitely had other girlfriends before I think it just
takes cultivating a relationship just like any relationship it takes time I
had to like be friends with them first so they got to know me as someone who just
uses a chair who’s like on a wheelchair not in a wheelchair and they got to see
all the things I was capable of and what I could do and my personality and my
attitude at first glance people swipe left every time and I can’t blame them
because if I was on a dating app as an able-bodied person and I saw someone in
a wheelchair I’d hit no too you know because it’s a first impression and the
first impression is usually oh are they sick oh I’m gonna have to take care of
them oh what’s wrong with them Oh can they have kids oh can they have a family
Oh Oh can I can I go hiking with them but what about vacation but what about
what will my family think my friends think there’s too many questions
and I think it’s one of those things that once you get to know me you realize
oh it’s just a regular dude he just like sits in a chair Thanks meeting you! pleasure to meet you too take care we’ll see ya oh that’s a
tough one I would say yes and no I know I don’t necessarily believe in the gods of
religion but I believe in a higher power a higher power yeah you pray every night
I do not but I do speak out loud to myself so maybe someone hears it? I wouldn’t say atheists maybe more agnostic
maybe not not sure just believing your own higher power ringing apart
oh it’s more of just something greater than me like I’m not God right I I’m not
my own higher power but something is I don’t think I have a name for it you
know it’s just like a thing. pleasure dude the types of questions I’m getting
and you can tell they’ve been more an ask for a really long time well I got I
think this is definitely something I want to keep doing I like it generally
nice people genuine curiosity and thanks for coming along with us leave a comment
down below about what type of questions you would like to ask someone in a
wheelchair let us know if you like these because we’re probably gonna get a lot
of them I really like the conversations that we had today and this evening and
it’s been a good time. fine me on Instagram Facebook like comment subscribe and we’ll see you there

100 thoughts on “Curious about Wheelchairs? ASK ME ANYTHING!

  1. I love this video and the idea. It would be really cool if a group of people that has something different from "normal people" would do this. Or like if they do a tour together omg. I would 100% pay to learn new things about all of this

  2. "Do you believe in God?"

    Uuuuuhm, it says "wheelchairs" right here bro, don't put me in that spot yo soooo I uhm.. Yes and No!

  3. dude you have given a whole new WORLD of motivation! and out look on my life, i have Spina bifida so ive been in a chair my whole life. its in my L4 so i have mobility in my legs so i have drag raced my whole life. i played sled hockey. i would hunt and fish. but once adulthood came it put me in a HUGE funk and i stopped doing everything i love in life and watching you made me realize that its my mindset, not my disability

  4. Him: Ask me anything!
    Me: Ok what’s 2+2?
    Me: Oh ok thanks, I was just having some trouble with my history homework. Bye!
    Him:😐 um ok,we’ll have a nice day, bye.

  5. Honestly. 15:17 what will my family think makes me wonder if this should be an episode of what would you do. Have no clue if it's been made or not but would seem good to see public's reaction. Idk ._. just a random thought.

  6. Ok. Here's mine.
    Would you change back to walking of you had the chance to go back? Idk if this would yield the same answer. Basically would you go back to before the injury with this experience.

  7. like molly burke said, “getting a disability doesn’t change you, it changes how you do things.” all you have to do is adapt, your life isn’t over

  8. I was in wheelchair for a short while in 2006 after I was t-boned in an accident. It was a long recovery, I was bed ridden for months, then in a chair, then in a walker, then I waddled, limpped and walked. It was very hard, he is right you don't change your way you look at life and the things you used to care about change. I remember how I felt invisible at one point. I noticed adults and teens would not make eye contact or would quickly glance away. I went from being the center of attention when I walked into a room to thinking: "Hi I am right here." I also noticed that if anyone would ask they would ask my mom as if I was a child. I just turned 21. That experience did teach me how beauty if very fickle. Who really loved me. And I must always stay positive.

  9. Wow, Richard !
    What an awesome (video) idea ! Thanks for sharing this with your audience !
    Why did YouTube not show this to me, months ago, since I also turned the bell-option on.

    It´s so interesting to hear and she, how people react to a wheelchair-user and compare it with personal experiences here in Germany.
    I am looking forward to the next video(s) with this sort of topic !
    All the best and lots of Love from Germany !

    PS, I have a question, which regards a quadriplegic friend of mine, who lives in California, too.
     In your "Best Advice For New Wheelchair-Users" one of your quadriplegic friends has/runs his own fundation, which I noticed several other quads and paras on YouTube also do, but I do not "know them" or watch their content.

    So, do you know, where I might be able to get some more informations on "How to start my own fund as a quadriplegic ?", so I could go more in depth on this topic, before I am going to '"suggest this as an option" to my friend ?
    Thank you for your feedback in advance !

  10. You are one of my new favorite youtubers!

    So, a question…doesn't really apply to you wholly, since you have mobility of some degree, but 'Sex and wheelchairs?' I always wondered how and what functions and doesn't function for those that are disabled.

  11. Notice the guy who tried to give him money also blocked the sunlight as the conversation went on his truly a nice human being

  12. I love your channel so much. I have a rare disease and have been in a wheelchair for three years. I'm actually working on walking again and sharing videos here. I think it's so important to allow people to ask questions and understand. Thank you

  13. Ok, If it rains, how do you keep your hands from getting dirty?. I'm designing a lever instead of having to rotate the wheel bar. For a kid at my sons school, he doesn't know it yet though.

  14. Started watching your videos a couple days ago and i do have to say i absolutely love the way you do things very humble

  15. I think the guy that offered money had a really good heart, I don’t think he read the sign at first though he just took you as a homeless disabled person until he read your sign

  16. Could not imagine not walking.
    8 months ago I fractured my hip and pelvis and shattered my right arm.
    My hip and pelvis I can describe the pain. But for 2 months it was a wheelchair. And everyone would leave and if think I bet I can walk a few feet. Stood up kinda and hit the floor.
    It’s odd when you have done something so simple as walking then you can’t.
    And the thing that got me mad was going to stores and being called names. Personally I’d never knock anyone for a handicap. But it was shocking to see there’s so many asses out there.

  17. An old man walked past me, a disabled woman rolls past me? What would you call the motion of wheelchairing?

  18. Its amazing the way you could pit yourself out thr and b asked all the hard questions …i admire your strength.keep it up…it will only get bettr.

  19. I have never had any friends who were in a wheelchair and it wouldn't keep me from being their friend, especially if they were such a cool dude like yourself.

  20. You are incredibly good at talking to people, especially about your injury. actually, it’s super inspiring partly because I’m antisocial

  21. I was in a buss stop , i talk with my gf on my phone , do you want to go running ? Nah , do you want to hike and camp out? Nah , do you want to play soccer or go to laser tag or airsoft? A guy roll over from the crowd hop off of the wheelchair tos it in the fucking bus and told me " i wish i can do that" i walk 8 km back home that day

  22. This is probably late but I do have a question. Are there days that you get out of bed and dont remember that you cant walk so you unconsusly try to walk?

  23. I have a question I would really like to ask you, because you're really open in this video and that's something I admire.
    Here's the question: do you think that those 9 years have opened up your eyes and heart?
    Has your perspective on the world changed since your accident?

  24. Q: Have you ever tried to max the speed out and if so, what's the fastest speed you've ever gotten up to in it ?

  25. You can walk dude if I could walk again my chair would be a thing of past. I would not use it. But each there own

  26. This gives me a whole different look on life. He just proved that no matter what god throws at you, you can do absolutely anything

  27. You and your GF never really did make it clear so here are my questions: 1) can you get and erection aid free? If not what do you use? 2) can you feel your dick while j/o or having sex? If so can you cum? 3) have you tried or willing to try stem cells for a cure? 4) Is your upper body development all natural (other than over the counter supps) or are you juicing? 5) were you aware the chick with the Stiletto Pumps and tight jeans was totally crushing on you? 🙂 6) when you say you gotta stick your finger in your butt to poop….is that because your hole has been tightened or altered in some way surgically? 7) how many times did you attempt suicide and what was the method each time?

    I was gonna use heroin to trigger an overdose and still might. My life is not a happy one. BUT….this isn't about me. I just felt the need to share a bit after asking so many "all-up-in-ur-junk questions". I'm proud of all you have accomplished.

  28. 32 years ago I broke 28 major bones tore off left leg and 24 months walked out of the VA. I'm a Kirby guy and while I could shop the store I couldn't knock endless doors. First year $ 1/4 M …..I'm serious I had more fun than allowed by law. Took over seaside and cannon beach and drive my boss around singing with a guitar the filthiest funniest songs phone girls salesmen and a bank if phones and the jacuzzi suites. And conventions we would just roar and it was a real fine time. But it stopped 32 years ago. I know how to score hi on all the stuff ya wanna do this life. I grew up in nasa groups and scientists medicine and law. I took a marijuana case to the Supreme Court trying to change the law and now I get vindication after 44 years and 3 votes az is my huckleberry. But I took it over the rail with no grease 44 years. Never called my uncle for help. 3rd most powerful man in the world from my birth the year I got hit he dropped out of the Senate. So I have hung with the names you see on the news . I'm 6'8" 325 bench 500 legs 36" 2000 pound lift. Steel not machines. Got a genius IQ. And yes for twenty years I still kicked ass. I was going with senators McCains aide theresa and saw the election from a different point of view. I have a PhD in music and masters in religion and am a kriyaban yogi. I live comfortably on a pension and have a huge fan club. So I'm 3 months off oxy and have healed about all my problems….Dialysis bone infection IV Vanco every six months. And 32 years of pain. Mom just died and greedy brother to sick to chase the estate. So being the black sheep I never thought I would be looking at great great great Gramps civil war discharge and 37 battles. Long way from men in black murders and nasa hoo ha . Oh yeah had anti grav and a nasa contract. Didn't take long for them to figure we knew rockets were bullshit. OK so I spent a lot of time in wilderness areas heavily armed. Sometimes the only thing saved me was them knowing the area is wired to blow and I'm a craZy marine. Don't matter. Then there's family times and tall beautiful women and everything I touch turns to gold. So after amputation last year and a small inheritance I bought a van. nice Odyssey. And then all my investment plans turned to jello and now I'm just thinking sell the van and just use my scooter . I still have a lot of drive. And street smarts. But a man without a plan is like a ship without a rudder. I never thought I would wake up to find so much change . I've been in a cave in Tibet 12 years and I come back and know nothing. I've never accepted limitations and out performed anyone's dreams for my recovery and developing a great life. Job gets old wife gets ugly. And just the whole entropy thing. I've learned how to cure all disease and God realized and self realized … what. Everyone looks to me as the font of answers and I don't know if I can produce. I still rebuild Rainbow vacs but no ones buying. My biggest profits were always from finding a market. And in the past I was a marketing genius. Millionaires fill the hills I've taught. Mr excitement. Oh and diamond Jim Brady all rolled in to one. I still have luck beyond belief with poker. I am finishing a work on quantum poker. And all I need now is bankroll. But the flux is on in the ether and luck us fickled. So I'm a certified mechanic….certified in 1983. So I've been boning up on all the new equipment and I watch all the new updates and maybe I can buy cars again. I've always picked winners

  29. OK where do I go from here I do have a membership at the handicap spofit gym. That's right Spofit…I need motivation… And I don't mean hemroids or other such. I need a six foot three blonde hair to her waist and can knock me out without the punch but can go either way about 165 IQ. … ususal

  30. Wow!! I love this so much I hope you see my channel!! I’m throwing a big party next month called 30 Days of Wheels in my hometown!

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