20 bad habits that are holding you back

20 bad habits that are holding you back


Without a doubt, the biggest lesson I’ve
learned over the last year is that the key to obtaining happiness is found in restraining
yourself from doing stupid shit. That being said here is a collection of behaviors
that you need to stop doing immediately. They aren’t doing you an ounce of good. They’re robbing you of the meaningful relationships
you have with others. Even worse, they’re robbing you of the most
important relationship of all: the one you have with yourself. What’s up, everybody? Tanvir Ahmed here. Welcome back to another video. And if you’re new here, stop doing these
20 things. 1. Ramming your opinions down other people’s
throats: The ultimate “life hack” is having strong
relationships. And you put those relationships at risk every
time you ram your opinions down other people’s throats without truly listening to what the
folks around you have to say. Nobody cares how much you know until they
know how much you care. So stop telling people what you think, and
start asking others what they think. 2. Pointing your finger at others:
Blaming others is a loser’s strategy. It not only makes people feel bad — but
it also makes you look bad. Never forget that the world is run by people
who own themselves and this includes owing up to their mistakes. Don’t criticize them; they are just what
we would be under similar circumstances. So stop waving your little finger, and start
being the person who looks for solutions. 3. Arguing about meaningless stuff:
How many times have you changed your mind because somebody said you were wrong? Most people aren’t that different, so stop
treating them like they are. The next time you sense the words “I am
right and you are wrong” coming out of your mouth, ask yourself if they’re really worth
saying. If they’re not, do both yourself and the
person you’re speaking to a favor and concede. Stubbornness is the strength of the weak. After all, the fastest way to devalue your
words is by insisting on getting the last word in. 4. Reading what everyone else is reading:
If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think the way everyone
else is thinking. Empathy is the key to truly being able to
see; and cracking open a book that makes you feel uncomfortable is a great place to start. 5. Defining people by what they do without first
considering who they are: How would you feel if someone labeled you
only by the mistakes you’ve made? Not great, right? So why do the same to others? We’re all ugly and beautiful at the same
time. It’s up to each of us to decide which version
we want to see. I don’t know about you but focusing on the
good in others sounds much more enjoyable than being hung up on the bad. 6. Ignoring the needs and wants of the people
around you: If your partner had a bad day, do them a favor
by not rubbing your great one on their face. Instead, sit down and shut up. And when I say “shut up,” this includes
any variation of: “I know how you feel” or “It’ll be better tomorrow.” More often than not, when people say they
need to talk, this means that they need a supportive ear — and your running mouth
isn’t gonna do anybody any good. 7. Questioning things that work:
If you want to lose weight, don’t look for a hack; instead, move more and eat less. If you want to create a writing habit, don’t
ask people about theirs; sit down and write. If you want to be more productive, don’t
watch a YouTube video; turn off your phone and get to work. Stop making things harder than they have to
be. 8. Ignoring the magic that comes from being bored:
When you pay attention to boredom, it gets unbelievably interesting. If your calendar is filled all day every day
you’re doing something wrong. Stop being so damn busy. It’s not impressing anyone, and it’s taking
you further away from making a real dent on this world. 9. Holding grudges:
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. So when it comes to holding grudges, just
let it go. You’ll never be able to move forward if
you don’t learn how to move on. 10. Complaining about things you’re doing nothing
about: If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. Nobody likes complainers — especially those
who do nothing to improve their situation. So instead of complaining how bad your life
is, open your ears, identify the needs of the people around you, and do what you can
to leave each person you come across better than you found them. You may just learn that by focusing on helping
other people solve their problems your problems don’t appear to be so big anymore. 11. Talking over other people:
The second you interrupt someone is the moment you lose them. The world would be a much kinder place if
people just learned how to shut up — not just to wait their turn but to actually listen
until it’s their turn. Most of us don’t listen with the intent
to understand; we listen with the intent to reply. So the next time you feel the urge to jump
in on someone, slow your roll and breathe. Then go home and take notes of all the cool
things you learned while you had your mouth closed. 12. Comparing yourself to others:
If you’re running someone else’s race, you’ll never win. So remove yourself from their race and start
running your own. 13. Saying no to learning opportunities because
you’re scared: If you’re constantly saying “No” to
things that scare you because of fear, lack of experience, or lack of knowledge, then
you’re missing out on being the person that you’re capable of being. Growth was not meant to be easy. It was meant to hurt and waiting until tomorrow
is only gonna makes it more painful. So suck it up today and allow yourself to
be uncomfortable — you may just find that the comfort you’re seeking is waiting for
you on the other side. 14. Building castles on the sky:
Nobody cares about your plans. Nobody cares about your projections. Nobody cares about your tomorrow. This may be a tough pill to swallow, but it’s
reality. The strongest words are worthless if they
aren’t backed by action. Stop telling people about your future and
instead start treating the present with the respect it deserves. Happiness isn’t something you postpone for
the future; it’s something you design for the present. 15. Stop letting the actions of others dictate
your day: Being a successful entrepreneur demands focus. Being a valued friend demands presence. Being an effective parent demands love. And you’ll fail at all of these pursuits
if you don’t develop the restraint to simply breathe and move on when someone tries to
ruin your day. So stop allowing other people’s minor complaints
turn into your big distractions. Positivity is a choice. 16. Taking criticism personally:
You can’t grow into the person you want to become without being realistic about who
that person can actually be. So stop shying away from criticism and be
the person who actively seeks it out. It may sting; but never forget what hurts
holds truth. 17. Thinking the world owes you something:
Having a career and a life you love is a privilege, not a right. And it is up to you, and only you, to make
it happen. No one is going to save you. No one is going to throw you a line. What we get out of life is a direct reflection
of what we put into it. So stop thinking you deserve better and get
to work. 18. Keeping your gratitude to yourself:
Writing what you are grateful for is a sound way to start the day; but it isn’t nearly
as effective as actually showing it. If you wake up feeling grateful for a particular
friendship you have with somebody, let that person know. If, during the day, you find yourself thinking
about how incredible your partner is, tell them how much they mean to you. Gratitude on its own is good; but it’s better
when shared. So stop keeping it for yourself. Your life will be better for it and so will
somebody else’s. 19. Relying solely on your first impression:
I don’t know if you have ever noticed this, but first impressions are often entirely wrong. You have something to learn from absolutely
everyone and rarely will that happen on the first go of things. People need room to show themselves. People need time to get things right. So stop passing immediate judgment and start
withholding it. 20. Ignoring the good that is right in front of
you: There isn’t a lack of beauty in the world
— simply a lack of people looking for it. So stop thinking about what you could have
— and start being thankful for what you do have. Not only will your relationships thank you
for it, but so will your sanity. The older I get the more I realize that the
most important thing in life are the relationships that we share with people. So do yourself a favor by ditching each of
these 20 destructive behaviors; and, instead, treat everyone you meet with the utmost respect. And don’t forget to do the same for yourself. The world of tomorrow depends on the kindness
we show today. That’s it for me guys. I hope you enjoyed this video. I hope you got something out of it. I hope you liked it. Hit that like button if you did. Subscribble and hit the bell if you haven’t
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3 thoughts on “20 bad habits that are holding you back

  1. Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.

  2. I like this video a lot, I will play it right before my adult kids come and visi ! I tend to worry about their unbalanced choices ~ thank you

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